Why Sex Doesn’t Gross You Out When You’re Aroused

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If you think about it, sex is actually sort of disgusting, what with all the sweat, saliva, fluids and smells. So much so that a group of researchers from the Netherlands got to thinking, How do people enjoy sex at all?

According to their small new study, people — at least women — may be able to get over the “ick” factor associated with sex by getting turned on. Sexual arousal overrides the natural disgust response, the researchers found, and allows women to willingly engage in behaviors that they might normally find repugnant.

The study, conducted by scientists at the University of Groningen, involved 90 women who were randomly assigned to one of three groups. One group watched a “female friendly” erotic video; another watched a video of high-adrenaline sports like skydiving or rafting, designed to be arousing but not sexually so; and the third group watched a neutral video clip of a train.

Afterward, all the women were asked to perform 16 tasks, most of them icky, like drinking from a cup with a bug in it (the bug was fake), wiping their hands with a used tissue, eating a cookie that was next to a live worm or putting their finger in a tray of used condoms.

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The researchers found that the women who watched the sexually arousing video rated the unpleasant tasks as less disgusting than did their counterparts who were not sexually aroused. They were also more likely to complete more of the tasks, suggesting that sexual arousal not only dampens the disgust response but also influences how much women are willing to do.

That helps explain why so many people keep having sex, despite the inherent messiness of it, the researchers said. “The findings indicate that both the impact of heightened sexual arousal on subjective disgust and also on disgust-induced avoidance will act in a way to facilitate the engagement in pleasurable sex,” the authors wrote. Previous studies suggest that sexual arousal has the same effect on men.

“I think this study is interesting in that it helps support the idea that sexual arousal lowers inhibitions and often enables one to participate in activities that they might normally find disgusting or off-putting,” Dr. Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and author based in New York City who was uninvolved with the study, told ABC News.

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The findings may also shed light on conditions involving sexual dysfunction. Lack of sexual arousal may interfere with healthy sex by failing to dampen the disgust factor, the authors said. Essentially, if women are not appropriately aroused before sex, they may find it even more repulsive and increasingly start to avoid it. Low arousal can also render women physically unable to enjoy sex, the authors said:

As a result, this could lead to problems with sexual engagement, and lack of vaginal lubrication, which in turn could increase friction and cause problems such as pain with intercourse. It is thus possible that in extreme cases the woman might acquire negative associations with sex and might start to avoid sexual intercourse altogether.

The authors call for further research among larger groups, including participants suffering from sexual dysfunctions.

The study was published in the journal PLoS ONE.

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156 comments
SwaggaCat
SwaggaCat

In my opinion, sex isn't "disgusting" or "gross", and anyone who think it is is must be extremely immature or doesn't understand anything about it. It's a natural thing that you do with your lover, and a very nice thing at that.
And a little something, why point out the bug was fake but still let them touch used condoms?!

lindsncal
lindsncal

Innately....naturally...those gross things are there to attract us. We've just been indoctrinated to not respond to our instincts but to think they're gross.

For thousands of years, when a woman was expecting her husband back from battle, she would purposely not bathe for a while because those 'gross' things are instinctively used to attract us.

delder
delder

It's all about hormones. Before puberty and after menopause it is hard to understand why people get into such humiliating positions and make such fools of themselves.

mrone
mrone

Maybe it was not due to arousal but because they though that sex is "dirty"?  As a follow up study, have them shovel horse manure and than see if icky things are still as icky as before.

TinaMoore
TinaMoore

Sex is icky if you're attempting to have it with someone you are not attracted to.  If the attraction is there, almost nothing is "icky".  Just my opinion.

rhill
rhill

The bug was fake but used condoms were okay?

grichens
grichens

"The authors call for further research...'

Natch.

govett
govett

The Internet abounds with ick, yet it grows apace. Is there an Internet arousal unbeknownst to me?

spacedingo
spacedingo

To assume that sex is gross to begin with is just wrong.

BTW, in an episode of Family Guy - when Brian looks into his girlfriend's car window and sees her having sex with Cleveland, Cleveland says "Close the window; you're letting the stank out". Later in the episode Quagmire says the exact same.

MatthiasLehmann
MatthiasLehmann like.author.displayName 1 Like

Interesting, but why the exclusive focus on women only?

ellisfurman
ellisfurman

I do hope these eggheads included "anticipation" of an orgasm in their report of possible reasons, especially in the group that watched the erotic film.

submandave
submandave

@ellisfurman The researchers were obviously trying to find a way to improve their chances of scoring.

Beethoven999
Beethoven999

I think because your mind is on another thing rather than what you are actually doing. 

HariMirchein
HariMirchein

@mightyobvious are you guilty ? :p

mightyobvious
mightyobvious

@HariMirchein Lol, no, just messy. And disgusting... ;)

HariMirchein
HariMirchein

@mightyobvious Ah, but it gells in eventually becoming a taste :)

FrankYosso
FrankYosso

over looked is a women's desire to please and make her partner [male or female] happy...sometimes arousal plays no part in the act....her pleasure comes from pleasing...

crucesignati
crucesignati like.author.displayName 1 Like

Since when is imagery of a train "neutral."  :)

LorenSoyka
LorenSoyka

careful, don't let that thing touch you, and definitely don't get any on you. and women wonder why they get dumped at middle age because they won't do it anymore or their man turns to porn or a girlfriend for a substitute.

OregonStream
OregonStream

People can have particular activities that the "ick factor" inhibits if they're not already aroused, and sub-par hygiene could also be an issue. But many people get aroused 'thinking' about sex. So how icky can they find it, if the fantasy PRECEDES the arousal?

CarmenSepulveda
CarmenSepulveda like.author.displayName like.author.displayName 2 Like

Wow, this is the first time I've read Time in years and I can't believe how similar it is to the sensational rags at the supermarket checkout line.  Entertaining drivel!

MarkinFL
MarkinFL

@CarmenSepulveda How is this sensational? Sure sex is heavily invested in sensation but this article is hardly sensational. Its actually pretty basic stuff. Just getting into the details of sexual function which may help with understanding dysfunction. Useful but hardly surprising considering that sex is pretty common.

LexyDermengin
LexyDermengin

@gruffghost "...and the third group watched a neutral video clip of a train."

gruffghost
gruffghost

@LexyDermengin i like how your favorite line was my favorite line too

LexyDermengin
LexyDermengin

@gruffghost "What's the unsexiest thing in the world? Ah yes. Trains."

gribbleman
gribbleman

Yeah - that was the first thing I thought of too.

MarkinFL
MarkinFL like.author.displayName like.author.displayName like.author.displayName 3 Like

@LexyDermengin I suppose they avoided shots of it going in and out of tunnels.

kadsura
kadsura

"The study was published in the journal PLoS ONE." 

I've gotta say, some of the shittiest papers I've read were from plos one. I wish the editors were more seletive in choosing higher-quality studies not just these eye-popping ones.

BartEdwardSimmons
BartEdwardSimmons like.author.displayName 1 Like

If people had sex before the advent of modern deodorant and regular baths without being grossed out, It does not take a scientific study to prove in todays world why we are doing it like horny rats every chance we get lol!

ScrubPuppy
ScrubPuppy

I've never met a woman who couldn't get past the Icky Factor.  They all come around eventually.  Yes, it might require effort on the part of their partner, but once there, it's all gravy.  

stimpy77
stimpy77 like.author.displayName like.author.displayName 2 Like

We must be becoming some kind of weird, robotic society, that this would be news.

Vigilarus
Vigilarus like.author.displayName 1 Like

Making the wet spot is enjoyable.  Sleeping on it?  Not so much.

attractwomen
attractwomen

This is true in my opinion, to make sex very truly pleasure for the couples  is to make the women first to get them arouse than the guys. Some women needs to manipulate first their mind simply because most women felt the messy part, or they don't get them turn on easily before or having sex so that's why getting to set their mind first or conditioning it to make them arouse could result to have a very meaningful sex for both of the couples.

ellisfurman
ellisfurman like.author.displayName 1 Like

@attractwomen Mesy thinky you not set mind to English.

Bethy2
Bethy2 like.author.displayName like.author.displayName like.author.displayName like.author.displayName 4 Like

Sex is disgusting???? What a crazy premise.

sacredh
sacredh like.author.displayName like.author.displayName 2 Like

"If you think about it, sex is actually sort of disgusting, what with all the sweat, saliva, fluids and smells."

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That's crazy. Those are the things that make sex great. People can be such whining Pollyanas. Oooooo...I'm sweating. Oh NO! My nostrils are flaring. French kiss? Shove your tongue down my throat. Spray me. Break out the plastic sheets. Grab the Mazola.

Just Ron
Just Ron like.author.displayName 1 Like

How republicans get laid:

"sexual arousal not only dampens the disgust response but also influences how much women are willing to do."

rhcrest
rhcrest like.author.displayName 1 Like

It's all those hormones that make you feel like it isn't disgusting. As for myself, i am now older, 50, and those hormones sure aren't around like they used to be and i definitely think sex is gross. I couldn't care less if i never had it again.

Nino Brunori
Nino Brunori

This article is absolutely 100% true.

I have come across video's on the internet that is next to impossible why anyone would do such a thing or suffer such abuse.

There are certain places that in a natural world you just don't want to go or do things you just don't want to do even for basic health reasons.  Has anyone out there ever hear about Hepatitis C?

How do people get off by choking women or dropping cigarette ashes in their mouth.  Maybe we just lost are morality in favor of Capitalism and the name of tolerance.

Seriously, where are the woman's rights groups when it comes to this behavior but they come full steam when a woman wants to become a Firefighter when they aren't normally physically built for the job.

They also don't speak up if a woman wants to be a prostitute and is forced underground,  subject to crime and abuse.  What happened to a woman's right to choose then?

Anyway, humanity is certainly on it's way out.

This no concern for behavior is what led to the ease in which aids spread so quickly as well as other STD's.  This along with greed, over population and mans continued cruelty to his brother is leading us down a dark path in history and it's only a matter of time before Earth re balances itself after it takes out half the human population through disease or other means.

Nothing new said here but it has gotten worse since the last time it was said and you people still haven't listened to the damn message.

MeanKittyClaws
MeanKittyClaws

@Nino Brunori  - and there is a reason why it has gotten worse, because as long as media is bombarding women's brains with sexualized messages, it is easier to get women to accept less than ideal socioeconomic circumstances...see section on Cognitive and Emotional Consequences in the APA Report on Sexualization of Girls - everyone should read this report to understand what media in conjunction with schools and by defacto exclusion from political spheres is perpetrating on society at large. source: (http://www.apa.org/pi/women/programs/girls/report.aspx)

ellisfurman
ellisfurman

@Nino Brunori What a dark, lonely place you inhabit, Nino.

LolaDown
LolaDown

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