Online Dating: Women Want Younger Men

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Evidence shows more ladies are embracing their inner cougar.

When it comes to dating, there’s an unscientific, but prevailing opinion that older men want younger women and vice versa. Turns out, the opposite may be true for women on the online dating scene. Numbers culled from various dating sites have consistently shown both sexes prefer to date down the age spectrum rather than up.

AYI (Are You Interested?), is one of the largest websites and apps designed to help users find their mates, but it works in an unconventional way.  Users allow the app to access their Facebook profile, and people are then are paired based on interests. To sweeten the appeal, AYI also flags any mutual friends the prospective pair share. Users who like what they see  “fave” the profile. If not, they can click “skip.”

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AYI pulled data from its 68 million downloads and 20 million Facebook profiles to see which subscribers are making successful matches. It focused in on the 1 million recommended pairings in a specific population of 35,942 users ages 30 to 49. The surprising finding: a woman was  five times more likely to show interest in a man was five years her junior that one who was five years older. If only the men would catch on. Among the 26,434 men ages 30 to 49, 42% wouldn’t even consider a woman if she was older than him. However, if contacted by an older woman, men wouldn’t necessarily turn her down. The data shows that a man is only 22% less likely to respond to an older woman than a younger woman if she initiates contact.

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What are some of the reasons for this? AYI analysts suspect that younger women are inundated by requests from older men and while that might once have had some appeal—in a marrying-for-wealth sort of way— it simply doesn’t anymore. A 2008 study published in the journal Psychology of Women Quarterly foind that women who are 10 or more years older than their partner report more satisfaction and relationship commitment compared to women who are the same age or younger than their partner.

“We don’t know for sure, but it may be because when the woman is older, it shifts the traditional heterosexual power dynamic toward greater equality. We know from a lot of research that greater equality tends to make couples happier,” writes study author Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist in the Department of Psychology at Harvard University in his blog, the Psychology of Human Sexuality.

Based on the findings, AYI Director of Product Insights, Josh Fischer, says men will get more online dating responses if they don’t confine themselves to only connecting with younger women, and women should continue to initiate contact with men they think they will like–especially if they’re younger.

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jon_asd2006

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JessicaBELL17
JessicaBELL17

Males are attracted to younger females is unscientific? Really? Scientists believe males instinctively find younger and healthier females with an hour glass shaped body attractive because women with those attributes produce superior offsprings. Studies show female are more fertile and capable of having healthier pregnancy between the ages of 18-25. Fertility issues and miscarriages have an increased risk as females age. Females prefer taller males, would you call that unscientific as well? Probably not. Alexandra Sifferlin, why would you embarrass yourself by writing an article without any research? On top of all of that you left your name and photo on here. I bet you're into younger males, Alexandra.  

MarenLaengin
MarenLaengin

@JessicaBELL17 Fertility wise men peak around the same age... they are just fertile another 10 years longer. However female fertility only ends if left untreated. If women started supplementing at around 30 with testosterone their fertility would not end. Consequently women would be more attractive to young men and would have the choice if they wanted to. Menopause is a consequence of old age prolonged by medicine... It is time to realize that menopause is outdated.  

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TroyMartin1

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JackyAnthoneyBaptiste

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tiffanysluty530
tiffanysluty530

Some young men just prefer older women. They may value your experience and self-confidence. They may feel wired that way, sometimes because of delightful early experiences with older women. Others may have no idea why, they just like older women>>>"cougarconnecting"

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lucyharry64

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lucyharry64

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DavidOrCohen
DavidOrCohen

I do no think it matters what the woman's age is or her status, the important thing is to know what to do when you decide that a woman is for you, the hard part is understanding the communication coming from the other side, you need to learn to see the sings and react to them, at the end it becomes a second nature, there is a cool article I found that covers the very basics I hope it will help you, http://bewitchingcloseness.com

DavidOrCohen
DavidOrCohen

I do no think it matters what the woman's age is or her status, but the fact that we all have the same basic needs like to be loved or mutual respect, the hard part is understanding the communication coming from the other side, you need to learn to see the sings and react to them, at the end it becomes a second nature, there is a cool article I found that covers the very basics I hope it will help you, http://bewitchingcloseness.com

mikethedudishdude
mikethedudishdude

I find it a bit weird that so called cougars need to resort to insulting men and how they age to argue what they are doing is right.

I wont argue whether all men need viagra or their sperm detorriate and who's body women or men is better with age. I'd like just to point out what a pathetic person it makes you, if you have to point that out, besides it makes you weak for other people's opinions.

Enjoy your relationships, and think and experience what works and what doesn't, and stop the spite to make yourself feel better. I have no sympathy for spiteful people, I find them disgusting, may they find matching partners and stay amongst themselves.

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JohnOpoku

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ponderlicious
ponderlicious

Older women and younger men don't work out. Eventually, the age difference starts showing up as the woman desperately tries to stay young and her younger counterpart is, well, still young. Demi and Ashton are the classic example of what happens. Just as a young woman might recoil at the thought of kissing a wrinkled old man, the same thing holds true for young man kissing a wrinkled old woman. That's just the facts of life.

LamarGreen
LamarGreen

Reality, find someone your own age. Or atleast close to it. Following a trend because Suzy is 59 and her boy friend is 22 iz not wise. Lets see, Suzys adult children are 32 and 29.

OhMyDog
OhMyDog

@ponderlicious My husband is 4 years younger than I am. The age difference doesn't have to be huge.

cjh2nd
cjh2nd

this sounds like it was written by a high schooler, and not a very intelligent one at that. 


goddessthatiam
goddessthatiam

Personally I think people over-analyze this. There are always exceptions to the rule. Younger men/older women relationships are fine. The only glitch is children. If the women are past child-bearing age...that is usually the reason for the relationships not lasting. But then, they go into the relationship knowing that. And it depends on the couple. 40-60 year old women are not the 'grannie' types anymore. They are in shape, well travelled, interesting, no baggage, etc.  No pressure to 'settle down'. I enjoy the company of younger men. I was quite surprised when I started getting attention from them. And, there has yet to be a 'booty call' relationship in any of them. The latest is the most surprising I've had. Backgrounds, growing up, likes, dislikes, etc...just amazingly compatible. Say what you want...but not every person or relationship is 'cookie-cutter'. It happens.

LamarGreen
LamarGreen

Do you have any children? Does he have children? If you have childten( adult or minor), how do they feel about the situation?!

MSFTTaz
MSFTTaz

@LamarGreen It really doesn't matter what the kids think. They're not the ones spending the rest of their lives with your spouse, and if they're grown, should really mind their own business when it comes to a parent's love life.  No one seemed to mind too much (but me) when my dad started dating a girl who was younger than me. Well, my dad eventually figured out that maybe 20+ years is too much of a difference when the younger person has yet to figure out who they are, but it made him happy at the time and that's all that really mattered. (I might have said something if I thought her intentions were bad.)


In the end, the only thing that really matters is that you and the person you are dating have the right things in common, are marching in the same general direction in life, make each other better people, and are attracted to each other, whether that's emotionally, physically or both. Age doesn't define a relationship as long as those other things match up.


Now, if one partner wants kids and the other is too old to have any, you've either got to figure out an alternative solution or keep looking, but that goes back to making sure you're both marching in the same general direction in life.

MarenLaengin
MarenLaengin

@goddessthatiam female fertility only ends if left untreated. If women started supplementing at around 30 with testosterone their fertility would not end. Consequently women would be more attractive to young men and would have the choice if they wanted to. Menopause is a consequence of old age prolonged by medicine... It is time to realize that menopause is outdated.

CorwinJackson
CorwinJackson

You either perform or kick rocks. With the younger crowd you better not have kids, they focus on your faults & place you under super scrutiny for the sake of finding a good match. And finally they may or may not hv kids, but they do have a life. & in light of that, they're too busy w/ their lives to really focus on you, they're young & feel they can always do better

CorwinJackson
CorwinJackson

All new things get old, young women & men.  And these men and women who are dating younger are doing so because ppl are wired to want new things. No body wants anything that's old and falling apart. Those of you that like older ones,  it's due to the benefits nothing more. & there are benefits to dating older women & men, 1. they just want some D or A. 2 They will try to take care of you til they tire of it, 3.) He or She has priorities ( Kids)  so they  really don't hv time to focus on your faults.

jlyrix
jlyrix

Why are there so many spelling and grammatical errors? If this article wasn't so long, I wouldn't have finished it.

gjdagis
gjdagis

Good luck. They better have a LOT of money!