Online Dating: Women Want Younger Men

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Evidence shows more ladies are embracing their inner cougar.

When it comes to dating, there’s an unscientific, but prevailing opinion that older men want younger women and vice versa. Turns out, the opposite may be true for women on the online dating scene. Numbers culled from various dating sites have consistently shown both sexes prefer to date down the age spectrum rather than up.

AYI (Are You Interested?), is one of the largest websites and apps designed to help users find their mates, but it works in an unconventional way.  Users allow the app to access their Facebook profile, and people are then are paired based on interests. To sweeten the appeal, AYI also flags any mutual friends the prospective pair share. Users who like what they see  “fave” the profile. If not, they can click “skip.”

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AYI pulled data from its 68 million downloads and 20 million Facebook profiles to see which subscribers are making successful matches. It focused in on the 1 million recommended pairings in a specific population of 35,942 users ages 30 to 49. The surprising finding: a woman was  five times more likely to show interest in a man was five years her junior that one who was five years older. If only the men would catch on. Among the 26,434 men ages 30 to 49, 42% wouldn’t even consider a woman if she was older than him. However, if contacted by an older woman, men wouldn’t necessarily turn her down. The data shows that a man is only 22% less likely to respond to an older woman than a younger woman if she initiates contact.

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What are some of the reasons for this? AYI analysts suspect that younger women are inundated by requests from older men and while that might once have had some appeal—in a marrying-for-wealth sort of way— it simply doesn’t anymore. A 2008 study published in the journal Psychology of Women Quarterly foind that women who are 10 or more years older than their partner report more satisfaction and relationship commitment compared to women who are the same age or younger than their partner.

“We don’t know for sure, but it may be because when the woman is older, it shifts the traditional heterosexual power dynamic toward greater equality. We know from a lot of research that greater equality tends to make couples happier,” writes study author Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist in the Department of Psychology at Harvard University in his blog, the Psychology of Human Sexuality.

Based on the findings, AYI Director of Product Insights, Josh Fischer, says men will get more online dating responses if they don’t confine themselves to only connecting with younger women, and women should continue to initiate contact with men they think they will like–especially if they’re younger.

103 comments
CandyCanada
CandyCanada

Hello ladys I'm here looking for old lady's between 45 for 60 I loved also anyone like to contact me plz leave message for me I'm very will for sex my favorite

JessicaBELL17
JessicaBELL17

Males are attracted to younger females is unscientific? Really? Scientists believe males instinctively find younger and healthier females with an hour glass shaped body attractive because women with those attributes produce superior offsprings. Studies show female are more fertile and capable of having healthier pregnancy between the ages of 18-25. Fertility issues and miscarriages have an increased risk as females age. Females prefer taller males, would you call that unscientific as well? Probably not. Alexandra Sifferlin, why would you embarrass yourself by writing an article without any research? On top of all of that you left your name and photo on here. I bet you're into younger males, Alexandra.  

TroyMartin1
TroyMartin1

hey im looking for a older girl from 36 and up here my cell 902-212-2627

azureowusu
azureowusu

hi i will like to meet old women from 50 going

JackyAnthoneyBaptiste
JackyAnthoneyBaptiste

a mature woman are not going to break your heart,my heart was broken after 13 years,ill give all my love a older woman any day 

tiffanysluty530
tiffanysluty530

Some young men just prefer older women. They may value your experience and self-confidence. They may feel wired that way, sometimes because of delightful early experiences with older women. Others may have no idea why, they just like older women>>>"cougarconnecting"

lucyharry64
lucyharry64

I am looking for someone who believes that a true intimate partner looks out for the other and vice versa. While navigating life together, we are caring and concerned for each other's well-being because we make each other so happy and we love each other very much.
But  I would n,t wish all that on one person ever ,I know what it is to do all those things its alot to do and would drive any one person to either loose their mind or run away.I am the kind of person that is affectionate!!  love to cuddle ,and get lost in kiss!!!! intimacy and foreplay is important along with romance!!!!

lucyharry64
lucyharry64

helloI am looking for someone who believes that a true intimate partner looks out for the other and vice versa. While navigating life together, we are caring and concerned for each other's well-being because we make each other so happy and we love each other very much.
But  I would n,t wish all that on one person ever ,I know what it is to do all those things its alot to do and would drive any one person to either loose their mind or run away.I am the kind of person that is affectionate!!  love to cuddle ,and get lost in kiss!!!! intimacy and foreplay is important along with romance!!!!

nil
nil

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NankiMishra

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fnt
fnt

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fnt

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lollymilliz


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siyavuya
siyavuya

hey guys im siyavuya 21years old  doing my b agric at university of forthare in south africa  im looking for a woman who  is between 45-70 who will want me to love her and who will gve me all her heart they can whatsupp me on 0710804009 pls girls dnt loose out im available

DavidOrCohen
DavidOrCohen

I do no think it matters what the woman's age is or her status, the important thing is to know what to do when you decide that a woman is for you, the hard part is understanding the communication coming from the other side, you need to learn to see the sings and react to them, at the end it becomes a second nature, there is a cool article I found that covers the very basics I hope it will help you, http://bewitchingcloseness.com

DavidOrCohen
DavidOrCohen

I do no think it matters what the woman's age is or her status, but the fact that we all have the same basic needs like to be loved or mutual respect, the hard part is understanding the communication coming from the other side, you need to learn to see the sings and react to them, at the end it becomes a second nature, there is a cool article I found that covers the very basics I hope it will help you, http://bewitchingcloseness.com

mikethedudishdude
mikethedudishdude

I find it a bit weird that so called cougars need to resort to insulting men and how they age to argue what they are doing is right.

I wont argue whether all men need viagra or their sperm detorriate and who's body women or men is better with age. I'd like just to point out what a pathetic person it makes you, if you have to point that out, besides it makes you weak for other people's opinions.

Enjoy your relationships, and think and experience what works and what doesn't, and stop the spite to make yourself feel better. I have no sympathy for spiteful people, I find them disgusting, may they find matching partners and stay amongst themselves.

JohnOpoku
JohnOpoku

hi my name is john i m 26 years of age i need a friend like a woman about 39 40 going to here my dear friend thank you all please i need your help and this people will give me advice to me

ponderlicious
ponderlicious

Older women and younger men don't work out. Eventually, the age difference starts showing up as the woman desperately tries to stay young and her younger counterpart is, well, still young. Demi and Ashton are the classic example of what happens. Just as a young woman might recoil at the thought of kissing a wrinkled old man, the same thing holds true for young man kissing a wrinkled old woman. That's just the facts of life.

cjh2nd
cjh2nd

this sounds like it was written by a high schooler, and not a very intelligent one at that. 


goddessthatiam
goddessthatiam

Personally I think people over-analyze this. There are always exceptions to the rule. Younger men/older women relationships are fine. The only glitch is children. If the women are past child-bearing age...that is usually the reason for the relationships not lasting. But then, they go into the relationship knowing that. And it depends on the couple. 40-60 year old women are not the 'grannie' types anymore. They are in shape, well travelled, interesting, no baggage, etc.  No pressure to 'settle down'. I enjoy the company of younger men. I was quite surprised when I started getting attention from them. And, there has yet to be a 'booty call' relationship in any of them. The latest is the most surprising I've had. Backgrounds, growing up, likes, dislikes, etc...just amazingly compatible. Say what you want...but not every person or relationship is 'cookie-cutter'. It happens.

CorwinJackson
CorwinJackson

You either perform or kick rocks. With the younger crowd you better not have kids, they focus on your faults & place you under super scrutiny for the sake of finding a good match. And finally they may or may not hv kids, but they do have a life. & in light of that, they're too busy w/ their lives to really focus on you, they're young & feel they can always do better

CorwinJackson
CorwinJackson

All new things get old, young women & men.  And these men and women who are dating younger are doing so because ppl are wired to want new things. No body wants anything that's old and falling apart. Those of you that like older ones,  it's due to the benefits nothing more. & there are benefits to dating older women & men, 1. they just want some D or A. 2 They will try to take care of you til they tire of it, 3.) He or She has priorities ( Kids)  so they  really don't hv time to focus on your faults.

jlyrix
jlyrix

Why are there so many spelling and grammatical errors? If this article wasn't so long, I wouldn't have finished it.

gjdagis
gjdagis

Good luck. They better have a LOT of money!

CJTweed
CJTweed

"Users allow the app to access their Facebook profile, and people are then are paired based on interests. To sweeten the appeal, AYI also flags any mutual friends the prospective pair share."

This sounds like the perfect way for people to cyberstalk....

professoressa
professoressa

I'm in my mid-forties and my husband is 18 years younger. I'm in excellent shape and I have a great job and I'm tired of being condescended to by men my own age who don't bother to work out, feel entitled to my interest as though I must be desperate for their company, and require nonstop ego maintenance because they feel threatened by me; not to mention that they're all busy chasing 22-year-olds. Younger men don't seem to care as much about superficialities and are more willing to relate to me as an equal. Sure I also appreciate my husband's ripped body and high libido, but his progressive attitude is the real turn-on. Also, not everyone wants kids, and with the attitude some of you are displaying, maybe you should think twice about passing on your genes and values. Those who point to mounting evidence that sperm degrades after age 40 or so are right; look it up, people. We all age. There is zero upside to stigmatizing this for anyone. 

jmiamibeach
jmiamibeach

This article was right on. When I was in my late 40s using online dating i found American women in their late 30s thought i was too old! Came to Latin America....the vast majority of women like older men... My girlfiriend is 22... CHAO American ladies

valentine.godoflove
valentine.godoflove

I NOT HAVE NO "OEDIPUS COMPLEX".........HAVE NEVER DESIRED TO DATE MY MOTHER OR MY GRANDMOTHER !

SO.....IF AN OLDER WOMAN CAN ATTRACT A YOUNGER MAN......I SAY.....SO BE IT!!.......MORE POWER TO YOU......

I PREFER A CO ED WITH FIRM BREASTS........GIVING BIRTH SOMETIMES IS DEVASTATING TO A WOMAN's BREASTS.....THEY SAG.....

FORGIVE ME FOR TELLING THE TRUTH......LOL......

VALENTINE.....COMEDIAN.....LOL

amd68
amd68

It doesn't seem to be common knowledge, but men who want a high chance of healthy babies should be having them before they are middle aged.  This is not new knowledge, it was known at least 15 years ago that the quality of sperm deteriorates with the age of the father and that older men's sperm increased the chances of birth abnormalities and mutations.  There are a lot of links out there. Here's are a couple I found in les than a minute: http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/44641.php and http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702303936704576400161673484394.html?mod=rss_Health

"Andrew Wyrobek, Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory, and Brenda Eskenazi, University of California, Berkeley School of Public Health, study leaders, said that the their study demonstrated that men who wait till later in life to have children are not only risking infertility, but also having babies with such genetic disorders as achondroplasia and schizophrenia. The researchers found that the DNA in the sperm of older men do deteriorate. (Achondroplasia = Dwarfism)"

So, chaps, you may - or may not - still be able to knock someone up if you wait until you are 40+ to procreate, but if you want a healthy baby, just as with women, your chances are much improved if you have a child while still youthful.  Both men and women have a built in biological sell buy date. Which might come as a shock to some of you.



RevolsLove
RevolsLove

See this is why my men  who  are my  great friends and lovers~ are at least 10 years or more  younger than me.
  I have more younger men approaching me than older men. .Guess the older men  feel  intimidated by my independence? ?

Who cares I'm getting mine ! Were all sexual beings with all different, like's. I just prefer  my ride to last. lol

ROCKING 53' And loving it...

joelp77440
joelp77440

"AYI analysts suspect that younger women are inundated by requests from older men and while that might once have had some appeal—in a marrying-for-wealth sort of way— it simply doesn’t anymore."  Disagree, the age range the chose was 30-39, not women in their 20's.  Women at that age might begin feeling old or older and what to feel the stronge arms of youth, instread of the flabby midsection of middle age.  Youth is appealing to both sexes. 

MNL
MNL

"When it comes to dating, there’s an unscientific, but prevailing opinion that older men want younger women and vice versa."

Wait a minute.  National statistic on the average age of both sexes at time of marriage going back nearly 100 years and over hundreds of countries--all consistently showing older men prefer matching up with younger women by a few years (and vice versa)--is merely a prevailing opinion?  Very amusing, Time.

OhMyDog
OhMyDog

@ponderlicious My husband is 4 years younger than I am. The age difference doesn't have to be huge.

LamarGreen
LamarGreen

Reality, find someone your own age. Or atleast close to it. Following a trend because Suzy is 59 and her boy friend is 22 iz not wise. Lets see, Suzys adult children are 32 and 29.

LamarGreen
LamarGreen

Do you have any children? Does he have children? If you have childten( adult or minor), how do they feel about the situation?!

tompainejr
tompainejr

@professoressa  OK professor, so it's his ripped body and high libido that matters and whatever a "progressive attitude" is supposed to mean. I'm sure he's well-versed in the Book of Life and has insightful comments and a well-rounded character. As for me, I find it ludicrous that women in their 40s are carrying on as you do while I'm appreciated by my peer grouo (mid-50s) and by women, say 29-34. I'll date women in that age group simply because it's open to me while the fading youth 40s are not. You're no professor, as shown by your grammar and your wish that it were true, "Younger men don't seem to care as much about superficialities..." He's likely benefiting from your so-called great job while perfecting his gigolo gamesmanship until another target becomes his interest. For what it's worth, I take care of myself too but not in a desperate housewives way.

mikethedudishdude
mikethedudishdude

@amd68: Men still can have babies for a significant longer time than women. Getting kids later also makes them more likely to have a longer life span (there are other studies that found that out). Real problem isn't fertility, it's being a father as it's quite stressing.

LamarGreen
LamarGreen

Ever think about getting married and settling down.

tompainejr
tompainejr

@RevolsLove  Lots of intellectual depth -- watch out for STDs while you're rocking it.

amd68
amd68

@MNL You mistake what women were once forced to do, due to the patriarchal society they were living in, to choice. Now that they have more choices, women also choose youth.

MSFTTaz
MSFTTaz

@LamarGreen It really doesn't matter what the kids think. They're not the ones spending the rest of their lives with your spouse, and if they're grown, should really mind their own business when it comes to a parent's love life.  No one seemed to mind too much (but me) when my dad started dating a girl who was younger than me. Well, my dad eventually figured out that maybe 20+ years is too much of a difference when the younger person has yet to figure out who they are, but it made him happy at the time and that's all that really mattered. (I might have said something if I thought her intentions were bad.)


In the end, the only thing that really matters is that you and the person you are dating have the right things in common, are marching in the same general direction in life, make each other better people, and are attracted to each other, whether that's emotionally, physically or both. Age doesn't define a relationship as long as those other things match up.


Now, if one partner wants kids and the other is too old to have any, you've either got to figure out an alternative solution or keep looking, but that goes back to making sure you're both marching in the same general direction in life.

amd68
amd68

@mikethedudishdude @amd68 No. The real problem is deteriorating and decrepit sperm. As stated, if you want a healthy baby have one before middle age. If women want a healthy baby they should seek youthful sperm. Which is just one reason why women are attracted to youth. I realise that displeases some, but the truth is still the truth.