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What is the point, really, of kissing? Humans make such a big deal of it, but almost no other animals smooch.

A new study out of Oxford University suggests that kissing may actually have a purpose beyond the obvious — it’s a mating audition. Potential mates are doing a taste test. And that could explain why women and guys who think they’re good-looking enjoy it more than other people do.

Kissing, which is practiced in almost every human society in various forms, is something of a mystery to those who study mating behavior. Chimps and bonobos kiss, but not with the same intensity or high levels of mooniness before and after the act that Homo sapiens display. There are three working theories about why we, as opposed to other species, like to lock lips: kissing can arouse, it cements relationships together or it’s a trial run of a potential mate.

Two researchers from Oxford’s department of experimental psychology, Rafael Wlodarski and Robin Dunbar, provide evidence for the latter explanations in their latest investigation. They set up an online survey and asked about 900 adults (about two-thirds of whom were women) to answer questions about how important kissing was in both long and short relationships. Overall, women valued kissing more than men (no surprise), but guys who rated themselves as more attractive than others or who had lots of girlfriends also placed more emphasis on the smooch.

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That makes sense, say the researchers, since both women and good-looking guys tend to be more picky about their mating partners. For women, bearing and raising children is a huge investment of their life and health, so they want to choose the right co-parent. As anthropologist Helen Fisher told U.S. News and World Report, “When you get a highly intelligent, pair-bonding species that requires years to raise a baby, you evolve more and more brain mechanisms to weed out the losers.” The hottie guys are picky because, well, they can be; they have a lot of choices, so they need a way to winnow them down. Kissing, says the Oxford team, may therefore be a way of trying on potential partners.

“Mate choice and courtship in humans is complex,” Dunbar said in a statement discussing the work. “It involves a series of periods of assessments where people ask themselves, ‘Shall I carry on deeper into this relationship?'” The early judgment calls are all based on facial, body and social cues. “Then assessments become more and more intimate as we go deeper into the courtship stages,” he said, “and this is where kissing comes in.”

How does a kiss determine mateworthiness? It’s not really clear, but some philematologists (those are the people who study kissing) believe that it has to do with smell. In her book The Science of Kissing, Sheril Kirshenbaum cites Claus Wedekind, who she says found that “women are most attracted to the scent of men who have a very different genetic code for their immune system in a region of DNA known as the major histocompatibility complex.” Having different DNA from the individual you are kissing heightens the chance of having healthy offspring should the kissing lead somewhere. And juxtaposing two orbicularis oris muscles in a state of contraction is usually more fun than having a genetic test.

Other scientists believe women send off a signal if they’re ovulating that can be subconsciously detected if a mate is close enough. As the authors of a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior put it, “It is unclear, for example, whether kissing aids in the process of mate assessment by facilitating the evaluation of pheromonal cues for overall health, genetic fitness, or menstrual-cycle phase and fertility, or alternatively by aiding gustatory assessment of skin oils and saliva compounds.” (Translation: it could be a subconscious thing, or it could be that mates are actually figuring out whether each other smells good.)

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Women in the study also ranked kissing as more important for longer relationships, suggesting it was a way of communicating and enhancing affection and attachment. In fact, more kissing was strongly correlated than more sex with a higher-quality relationship (although the people who had a lot of both had the highest relationship satisfaction). Moreover, the researchers suggest that although kissing does cause arousal, arousal doesn’t seem to be what is driving people to kiss.

Maybe the couples in this event could shed some light on the matter.

79 comments
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"What is the point, really, of kissing? Humans make such a big deal of it, but almost no other animals smooch". That is what makes human being unique.

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"Women in the study also ranked kissing as more important for longer relationships, suggesting it was a way of communicating and enhancing affection and attachment". Women cherished kissing more than men.

anoncaca
anoncaca

kissing is disgusting and I absolutely despise it. Hopefully I might find someone else who rather kiss on the cheek than have a awful make out session. Even the noise of kissing makes me so angry and annoyed. It's boring and utterly useless. There is absolutely no point in kissing. What you can do else instead that is just like a kiss is simply hugging. Fudge passionate kisses.

Whatanotion
Whatanotion

I kissed a woman for 6 hours once.  We actually could not stop ourselves.  Her and her big bosoms and gorgeous face and me with a crowbar between my legs.  We did not have sex, ever.  But boy we could have!   But I also learned what "blue balls" meant.  OUUch!  I consider that restraint one of the proudests things in my life.

Whatanotion
Whatanotion

@VanVVilder@Whatanotion does saying things like that make you feel like a man?  are you proud of yourself now?  Come back when you grow a pair that you control and that don't control you.

HalberstamStone
HalberstamStone

It is  stupid study. Ugly people can kiss the pretty as long as they have other power, namely, the other attraction that go beyond the optics, namely, the wisdom, the money, the charisma, if not the mystic charm. 

Openminded1
Openminded1

What a stupid study and a waste of time. Ugly people have to kiss uglier people no wonder they do not like kissing as much , can you blame them. Ugly is as Ugly as it gets.

sferittuzer
sferittuzer

I love kissing but I can't have girlfriends and am not good looking. Good looking people can kiss more that doesn't mean they like or want it more.

RosaHines12
RosaHines12

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ShaneSchuller
ShaneSchuller

Frankly I think beautiful women are lonelier which mean kiss less.

Are animals and human beings equals? No! So how can we be referred to as animals?

In short, animals are not the species aiming to reach social advancement. A small difference that separates us and them is ABILITY.

In the animal kingdom it is found that some eat their offspring, “Infanticide”. Others eat their own faeces. Most, if not all, do not care for their elders. Humankind ruled out cannibalism, don’t eat their offspring or their faeces and take care of their frail. Regarding sexual habits, Monkeys masturbate in front of the whole troop. Ask yourself, are we animals? Certainly not!

The very foundation of the human civilization is based on ability. Our entire social consciousness sets us apart from them. Intellectual advancement rests upon our ABILITY. Animals do not evolve through ability, humans do. This very ABILITY is instrumental in our progress on the evolutionary scale. Wherefore it remains nonsensical to equate animal to humans.

wronharris
wronharris

This has something to do with the article?

sferittuzer
sferittuzer

@ShaneSchuller beautiful women are lonelier? you may be lonely and think you are beautiful but no. there's a swarm of guys around beautiful women.

VanVVilder
VanVVilder

@ShaneSchuller Beautiful women are lonlier? Why, because men enjoy hitting on and dating less attractive women? Uhh, yeah.. just, uhm, no.

thoallan
thoallan

Imagine that!  Human's having something that other animals do not!!!  Shocking!!  If ever I meet some "enlightened" lib who doesn't express shock in the fact that there is some difference between humans and other animals . . . I think will shake her hand and buy her a Daniel Webster cigar.

jvkohl@bellsouth.net
jvkohl@bellsouth.net

Chapter 12 of The Scent of Eros: Mysteries of Odor in Human Sexuality is titled: "A Kiss Isn't Just a Kiss. We detailed the connection to human pheromones in 1995 that these authors are following up on 18 years later. See, for example, the last two minutes of my presentation at the 2010 Annual Gathering of American Mensa. http://youtu.be/MTtcyr898rY

bgbs
bgbs

I stopped reading past first paragraph. Look, I don't think there is anything intellectual about reducing a human to an animal and then wonder why is it that we kiss while nobody else I'm the animal kingdom does? Perhaps because we humans are also the only ones who can talk, laugh, invent and think abstractly? If we going to judge a human according to an animal standard you need to think of a human as a super animal, or an animal god. Compared to the rest of the animal kingdom we are gods because we have the abilities that no other body on earth can touch.

benbristowuk
benbristowuk

Never kissed a girl, and I'm 16; almost 17. Meh.

Openminded1
Openminded1

@benbristowuk maybe your gay or very ugly, or its your last name, it could even be you smell, who knows and who cares moron.

anoncaca
anoncaca

@benbristowuk 


kissing isn't great. It's even worse when the inside of the persons mouth is cold and slimy. 

will.ganness
will.ganness

Kissing is a Non sexual activity that has been taught as sexual activity usually in the teen years and then associated with sex. Pretty much the same as fetishes - a paraphillia. WIth that its not "Bizzare" but rather wide spread. But still from the act and its sexualization its a fetish thats enjoyed by most. Research like these are fraudulent in that its starts off on a bias and then designs a study and produced the results that the authors are looking for. Switch to another fetishistic behavior like say bondage or object fetishism, one that the mainstream abhors - youll find very negative and flawed research that people who engage in these behaviors are likely to engage in antisocial behaviors.  You cannot trust any research that concerns psychology and sex - there is no way for you to ensure that the authors dont bring their biases into their work.  Authors have long wanted to promote kissing as a very healthy sexual activity - although it has no function in sex. There is research that links it to longevity, to a mother feeding her young etc etc. WHile you can generally find only negative research on sexual activity thats frowned on by society. I can  think of no sexual act except one that is more gross and laden with germs and rotting meat and food than kissing.