As more women (and, thankfully, men) come forward and talk about the bizarrely misogynistic remarks that are the default for internet commenting, especially on YouTube, it seemed appropriate to answer those comments in the medium that provoked them in the first place: video. Since I’d written recently about the kind of comments my appearances on YouTube draw, I was asked to be the subject of this little piece of experimental theater. This video is bleeped but still NESFWDOWYW (Not Exactly Suitable For Work, Depending on Where You Work.) Um, enjoy.
Wait why are people tagging misogyny into this. Sure maybe some of those hate comments are based off of misogyny. But where is the proof? I mean hate is hate, but tag it with the right reasons. And I think this lady is doing a decent job.
Yes, there are people out there that will say nasty things simply because they're nasty themselves. They spread the hate and it's good to address it because we can't simply ignore it.
Belinda, I love your sense of humor about this. I try to avoid looking at YT comments - sometimes I fail. When I do, I generally regret it. Some of the other commenters may be correct in saying that you're feeding the trolls, but I'm in a 'who cares' mood. If they react, they're showing their own idiocy, and of course there's no need for you to further engage with them. #GoBelinda
You're feeding the trolls, Belinda. Much like attempting to guilt a sociopath into feeling bad about what they do merely emboldens them, trying to "take a stand" against internet trolls only gives them more of a platform and more attention. It's counter intuitive, but it's true.
The best thing to do is to focus on and engage with the people who are commenting productively, and to ignore or delete all the troll comments (so other people don't futilely try to engage with them). Attention -- even negative attention -- is exactly what they want.
These aren't misguided individuals who just don't understand that other people are reading what they write (those people exist on the internet, but they don't write crap like you quoted). These are graffiti artists who are specifically trying to get a rise out of you, and you aren't going to make them feel bad or change their minds by calling them out.
It's a difficult job - journalismish - but someone has to do it...wait...wait...why? It's like Santa Claus isn't it? Does real journalism exist? Come on now be honest. Yellow is not your color ma'am but I would love to hear what Ba-Ba Walters dramatic reading of her slams would be...hehehehe
Sounds about par for the course.
On youtube abuse is so reflexive that it's hard to get upset over it -- it's like a Tourette's convention, and doesn't mean anything.
Even so, Youtube doesn't have the worst user community of all mainstream websites, though. That honor goes to yahoo.co.uk, on account of it being home away from home for a large and vile neo-nazi community.
Although this video is very funny, it really just makes me sad. Why are people so mean? Who finds pleasure insulting a person with such vulgar language? And what is the purpose of it all? Does it make them feel better? Really?
So she's showing us that those comments affected her because she took the effort to make a video about them and post onto Time's site.
Why waste everyone's time with this?
And there was no misogyny. You are not the embodiment of woman. They were making fun of you as an individual.
Take your emotions off the internet. You are not ready.
@RachelToupinWell i must say that some people can ignore it. And to some trolls this could stop them. (But not necessarily all).
@CliffordCresswellYe gods, I hope you're being ironic.
@CliffordCresswellIts this types of comments she was refering to... there's no point in reasoning with stupid people, as we can see by your comment
@resonancecascadeTrue, in behavioral terms, but Cabaedium makes a good point.
@resonancecascade These videos aren't for the trolls, they're a way to have fun with it - to own the abuse, if you will - and to remind the world how much hatred is still heaped on women simply for existing in the public sphere.
@garggaurav1995 ...really? Are you sure you know what that word means?
@yamabaldwinThere are a lot of (insert your descriptive of choice) among our species. Unfortunately.
@RainHotdogBurritos And you are not the embodiment of absolute truth. How do you know what their motives are? How do you know there wasn't misogyny? Can you at least give room for the possibility? You have a right to an opinion like anyone else, but I don't think you want to be the kind of person who just dismisses other people w/o taking time to listen and read and learn, do you?
Sure, she is not the embodiment of woman. No one person can be the embodiment of anything, but collectively, we are, which is why it is important to at least try to understand another person's experience, even if you still disagree at the end. If you had, you'd see that this piece is just one part of a much larger conversation happening. The reality is, whether you think this video was worth your time or not, there IS a problem with misogyny towards female journalists. She is a female journalist at a prominent news website. I think if anyone has a right to put something out there in the public square about this, it's her.
And clearly, she was not submitting this piece as a candidate for the Pulitzer (read some of her other writing and you'll see she is a substantive, thoughtful writer). Rather she was adding to the dialogue by 1) putting a human face on the receiving end of comments like this and 2) doing it in a lighthearted way. So why the harsh reaction from you? To tell her to take her emotions off the Internet sounds more like counsel you should consider yourself. Take time to read and understand people first and then maybe you can come thoughtfully to the table and add something to the larger dialogue instead of dismissing someone just b/c you don't like something.
@RainHotdogBurritosThere was, indeed, misogyny. You can find similar comments all over YT.
And you're projecting and being patronizing. It isn't about Belinda's emotions. Jerky jerks are jerky.
@RainHotdogBurritosuh you watched it didn't you? So what does that say about you? Ever hear of the Golden Rule or do unto others? SHEESH
@DennisScottMooreThe Ozzy resemblance, I must admit, was quite striking.
I was asked to be the subject of this little piece of experimental theater
This line was in the description of the video. So I really do not know why you expects anything else. You just like to comment on stuff you don't know about?