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		<title>&#8220;I&#8217;ll See You Again&#8221;: A Mother Recounts the Raw Days After Losing Her 3 Daughters</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 12 May 2013 09:45:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Alexandra Sifferlin</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Jackie Hance still struggles with the grief over losing her three daughters in a tragic car accident on the New York State&#8217;s Taconic Parkway. In July 2009, following a camping trip, Hance&#8217;s daugthers, Emma, 8, Alyson, 7, and Katie, 5 were riding  home in a minivan driven by their aunt, Diane Schuler, when Schuler went the wrong way on the Taconic Parkway, crashing head-on into an oncoming vehicle. Hance&#8217;s three daughters, their cousin, Schuler, and three men riding in the other car all died from the crash. Later, a toxicology report revealed that Schuler had marijuana in her system as well as a blood-alcohol level twice the legal limit. In her new memoir, I&#8217;ll See You Again, Hance recalls the tragedy that challenged both her sanity and relationship with her husband, Warren, and her slow and painful recovery. In the following excerpt, Hance recounts the moments after she learned the devastating news that her children were gone, and coming to terms with the fact that she was unable to protect them on that fateful day. Swarms of friends and neighbors had already gathered inside and outside our house, and several of the men had gone to the hospital to get Warren. I was in our living room when he arrived home, and the moment he saw me, he crumbled. His grief was already crushing, but once multiplied by mine, it became unbearable. He put his arms around me and we both fell to the floor, reeling and helpless, grief rolling over us like a locomotive. By the next day, the police had cordoned off our street, but television producers and news reporters clambered across our lawn, looking for an interview. Friends went outside to shoo away bookers from Dr. Phil and Oprah and the network morning news shows. Were they joking or just unbelievably callous? My tragedy as a lead-in to Lindsay Lohan on Fox News? ••• I got the story in fragments and didn’t fully grasp what had happened until much later. In the immediate aftermath, all I knew was that Diane had put the children back<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=86307&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>The Perils of Toy Shopping With a Feminist Mom</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 11 May 2013 11:00:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carolyn Jones</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Three generations of women walk into a toy shop. The older woman’s goal is simple: to find a fabulous toy for a little girl. It aligns exactly with the goals of the child, recently turned 3 and freshly aware of the thrill of buying stuff. But alas, the woman (me) in the middle of the generational sandwich has more complex goals. The toy must be fabulous, of course, but it must also do nothing to discourage the child (my daughter) from becoming a smart, ambitious citizen who can bust through glass ceilings to become a Sheryl Sandberg–like superwoman (ahem, if that’s what she wants). Lofty and unachievable goals for a Tuesday? Surely not. Thus I march my family through aisles of pink plastic to find educational toys in the bowels of the warehouse. It’s dark and dingy back there. “How about a floor puzzle?” I say optimistically. My mom’s face twists in doubt. “Construction blocks? This fractions game, perhaps?” (WATCH: Don’t Try to Buy This Girl a Princess Doll) Luckily, intergenerational warfare is postponed by the disappearance of my daughter. A frantic search finds her in the pink toy aisle, sitting inside a miniature car. The motorcar is plastic, it is pink, and it is branded by a well-known doll whose breasts are bigger than her feet. I’ve never seen my child so happy. Naturally I’m horrified. This busty doll, in whose brand my daughter has taken a sudden, zesty interest, is at the epicenter of feminist critique. After all, she glorifies superficiality and the kind of oversize homes last seen before the housing crash. Worse, she touts glittery pink products named Glam Vacuum Set! and Glam Laundry! As anyone with a mop knows, domestic duties are not Glam! Furthermore, the pinkness of the products bolsters the lie that housework is girls’ work. A vision of Sandberg’s book, Lean In — a feminist manifesto still fueling debate about women’s internal barriers to leadership — hovers before me. Sandberg argues that progress toward gender equality has stalled when it comes to heterosexual couples<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=86468&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Mothers To Follow (On Instagram) This Mother&#8217;s Day</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/05/10/top-xxx-instagram-feeds-to-follow-this-mothers-day/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 10 May 2013 14:30:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Alexandra Sifferlin</dc:creator>
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		<title>World&#8217;s Mothers Report: We Need To Lower Newborn Deaths</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/05/07/report/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 07 May 2013 14:30:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Alexandra Sifferlin</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[With Mother&#8217;s Day just around the corner, the Save the Children foundation released its 14th annual State of the World&#8217;s Mothers Report. This year, the U.S. ranks as the 30th best country to be a mom, dropping five spots from last year&#8217;s 25th-place ranking. The annual report rates the well-being of mothers and children in 165 countries based on factors that range from a mother&#8217;s education to breast-feeding prevalence. This year, Finland ranks first, followed by Sweden and Norway, for having high scores in mothers&#8217; and children&#8217;s overall health, educational, economic and political status. This year&#8217;s report focuses on newborn health. Over 1 million babies die on their first day of life, and researchers from Save the Children and the London School of Hygiene &#38; Tropical Medicine say the findings indicate that figuring out how to help newborns survive day one can help lower the child mortality risk. (MORE: Report: U.S. Is the 25th Best Country to Be a Mom) Since 1990, overall child mortality has decreased from 12 million annual deaths to less than 7 million. However, newborn mortality rates have proved more stubborn: 43% of child deaths occur during a baby&#8217;s first month of life, and more than a third happen on day one. &#8220;That’s a big percentage, which is why we are focusing on it. If we really want to drive down child mortality overall, we have to move that newborn number faster,&#8221; says Carolyn Miles, president and CEO of Save the Children. The leading causes of newborn death are prematurity, birth complications and severe infections. More than 98% of first-day deaths occur in the developing world where infections and problems at birth are more common. However, the U.S. is not exactly a role model for newborn survival, especially for a wealthy country. Among the industrial world, the report says the U.S. accounts for 60% of all first-day deaths; in 2011, about 11,300 babies died in the U.S. on their first day of life. Babies born to low-income moms are most at risk. &#8220;That’s a shocking statistic in the U.S. A lot of the issue is<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=86211&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Mom&#8217;s Saliva Can Strengthen Babies&#8217; Immune Systems</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/05/06/moms-saliva-can-strengthen-babies-immune-systems/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 May 2013 12:00:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Picking up a dropped pacifier and sucking it clean may help infants to be better germ fighters. The practice not only protects babies from the nasty microbes on the floor, but passes on good bugs that can lower the risk of allergies, according to a new study from Swedish researchers published in Pediatrics. “Parental sucking of their infant’s pacifier is associated with a reduced risk of allergy development and an altered oral flora in their child,&#8221; they write. Infants whose parents use their tongues to burnish binkies were more likely to have different strains of bacteria in their gut, and with more helpful bacteria populating the intestines, the less likely the babies were to develop allergies and eczema. When the 184 infants in the study were four months old, the scientists collected saliva samples to determine which types of bacteria resided in their guts. At six months old, parents reported whether their infants used pacifiers and how moms and dads cleaned them. The researchers checked back in with the parents when their babies were 18 and 36 months old to see if the infants had developed allergies and when the first symptoms appeared. (MORE: Bacteria on Binkies: A Recipe for Crankiness) By 18 months, 25% of the babies had eczema, 15% had developed some type of food allergy and 5% had been diagnosed with asthma. But the children whose parents sucked on their pacifiers to sanitize them were one-third less likely to have eczema, which is considered the earliest sign of allergies, at 18 months than kids whose parents relied on other techniques — such as rinsing the binkies in tap water or boiling the pacifier. By the time the kids were 3 years old, those who had their pacifiers sucked clean were still considerably less likely to develop eczema than kids whose parents employed other cleaning strategies. And it didn&#8217;t seem that parents were passing on more germs or infections to their little ones with the practice; regardless of how a parent cleaned a pacifier, all of the babies<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=86102&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>How Single or Dual Parenting Affects Early Brain Development</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/05/02/two-parents-are-better-than-one-for-brain-development/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 02 May 2013 09:45:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Alexandra Sifferlin</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It&#8217;s a study in mice, but results from an intriguing experiment suggests that having one or two parents can affect new nerve growth in the brain, and that male and females respond differently to these influences. Extensive studies involving mice and rats showed that early life experiences could have profound effects on intellectual, emotional and social development. Negative parenting environments can affect the stress response in young pups, and make them hypervigilant to threats, while nurturing and supporting upbringing can instill resilience and novelty-seeking behaviors. Studies of how new nerves developed in the brains of young pups also hinted at the importance of parental care; positive parental environments tended to promote the growth of neurons in the dentate gyrus, a region of the brain responsible for learning, storing memories and spatial coordination. So researchers from the University of Calgary&#8217;s Hotchkiss Brain Institute (HBI) decided to take a closer look at different parenting models to figure out how they affected nerve growth and the behavioral consequences of that neural development. (MORE: Your Brain On Sesame Street: Big Bird Helps Researchers See How the Brain Learns) They started with eight-week old mice and placed them in three separate rearing environments. In the first group, impregnated females were left to birth their litters and raise their pups alone until the offspring were weaned; in the second group, impregnated females were placed in cages with a virgin female who helped the mother raise the pups until they were weaned; and in the third group, females were placed with the male fathers of their litters. Once the young animals were weaned, the researchers put them through a series of tests to measure their cognitive, memory and social skills, as well as their fear response. They also injected the animals with a dye that could track the growth of new neurons wherever they sprouted in the brain. To their surprise, they discovered that being raised in either of the two-parent situations boosted nerve growth in the dentate gyrus, but especially for the male mice. Female mice<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=85972&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Little League&#8217;s Big Headaches: Helicopter Coaches</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/04/29/helicopter-coaches/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 29 Apr 2013 18:00:25 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan Cray</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[You’re asked a lot of questions when you’re an assistant coach for your son’s Little League team, as I was for two years, but with a new season underway I’m reminded that the two I heard most often last year were also the most important… and they came from the eight-year-old players. “Why do the coaches have to yell at us?  Why don’t they just let us play?” Parents taking meaningless games too seriously is an all-too-familiar Little League problem, but in games involving the youngest children—ages five to nine—it’s now the coaches who are creating an unsettling new offshoot.  The issue, psychologists say, is that “helicopter parents” who are obsessed with winning often join the coaching staff for their child&#8217;s team, becoming “helicopter coaches,” literally perching themselves next to the outfielders or near the batter’s box so they can continually shout instructions to the children. Says Lois Butcher-Poffley, a Temple University sports psychologist and a member of the U.S. Olympic Committee’s sports psychology registry, “This is a way for the helicopter parent to gain access where they were banned before.” MORE: Mom Hacks Into School Computer System, Changes Kids&#8217; Grades The problem isn’t unique to Little League.  Helicopter coaches shadow players on other youth sports sidelines as well (skating moms are a well known presence at the ice rinks of potential Olympic stars), but baseball’s sporadic action and distant defensive positions make hovering much easier.  How crazy does it get?  During a Little League game in Los Angeles last June, a team had five coaches positioned around the nine kids on the field.  In the final inning, the infielders were so inundated by multiple coaches’ shouted “advice” that they were looking at each other in confusion, unable to understand the competing voices. As anyone who has ever watched a young outfielder gawk at a passing bird knows, some kids have a genuine need for extra coaching. Baseball’s youngest participants tend to be unfocused—which puts them at risk for injury in a game where hard balls are smacked and thrown.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=83988&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Pediatricians Issue New Home-Birth Guidelines &#8212; and Rattle Some Midwives</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/04/29/pediatricians-new-home-birth-guidelines-rattle-some-midwives/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 29 Apr 2013 12:18:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In general, doctors aren’t thrilled with the idea of home birth. And while less than 1% of U.S. babies are ushered into the world at home, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) decided to collaborate on guidelines they say should govern home births, which are attended mostly by midwives. Many of the recommendations, published in the academy&#8217;s journal, Pediatrics, are fairly straightforward: at least one person at the birth should be responsible for tending to the newborn infant; that person should also be trained in infant CPR. Medical equipment should be tested before the delivery. A phone line should be available; while you’re at it, check the weather forecast too, in case complications arise and a trip to the hospital is necessary. In case of emergency, have a plan to transfer the laboring mom to a hospital. And do all the stuff that nurses do in the hospital to brand-new babies: monitor their temperature and heart rates, keep them warm and cozy, administer vitamin K and heel-prick newborn screening tests that are sent to outside labs for processing, among other things. “No matter where a baby is born, they deserve the same standard of care,” says Dr. Kristi Watterberg, a neonatologist and professor of pediatrics at the University of New Mexico who is the lead author of the AAP’s home birth guidelines. More controversial is the academy&#8217;s advice that pediatricians endorse only midwives who are trained and cleared by the American Midwifery Certification Board. Midwives accredited by this board typically attend deliveries at hospitals and birthing centers. That position has upset certified professional midwives, who deliver the majority of babies born at home in this country but are accredited by a different body — the North American Registry of Midwives (NARM). “The assumption is that one type of midwife is better than the other,” says Melissa Cheyney, an associate professor of medical anthropology at Oregon State University and a practicing certified professional midwife who oversees the research division for the Midwives Alliance of North America, or MANA, which represents certified<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=85749&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>How to Keep Up With Your Kids: Tips For Older Dads</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/04/11/want-to-keep-up-health-tips-for-older-dads/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Apr 2013 18:36:22 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Alexandra Sifferlin</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In a story in this week’s issue of TIME (available to subscribers here), Jeffrey Kluger, himself an older dad, explores the latest science on how a father&#8217;s age affects the health of his children. So we took the opportunity to gather tips from family and fitness experts to help older dads navigate fatherhood in ways that capitalize on their strengths and overcome their disadvantages. Here&#8217;s what they advise: (MORE: Stay-at-Home Dads: No More Angst. These Guys Love What They Do) Avoid comparing yourself to other (younger) parents:  Cut down on how often you dwell on your problems and compare yourself to others &#8212; including younger dads, recommends Sonja Lyubomirsky, professor of psychology at the University of California, Riverside and author of The How of Happiness.  Lyubomirsky recently had a baby with her 56-year-old husband. Instead of lingering on your faults and disadvantages, remind yourself of the advice and security you can provide your child as an older man. Count your blessings and practice gratitude:  Express gratitude for what you have, either privately through meditation or keeping a journal, or more publicly with a close companion. Consider how grateful you are for the help of your spouse, or for the ability to have a baby at a late stage in life while your friends are dealing with teenagers. That&#8217;s certainly been our experience,&#8221; says Lyubomirsky. Lose yourself (in something you enjoy):  Have more experiences at home and work that indulge your interests, and are challenging and absorbing, says Lyubomirsky. This keeps your mind sharp and is a great way to learn new skills along with your child. (MORE: Older Fathers Linked to Kids’ Autism and Schizophrenia Risk) Develop strategies for coping:  Identify ways to endure stress, hardship, or trauma. Be willing to learn from hardships &#8212; both physical and emotional &#8212; that may come with age. Stay physically active:  &#8221;I just turned 40 and have three kiddos,&#8221; says Sincere Hogan, owner of New Warrior Training Systems, based in Houston, Texas. &#8221;My kids love that when I visit school, instead of sitting around with most parents, I&#8217;m on<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=68536&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Understanding the Rise in ADHD Diagnoses: 11% of U.S. Children Are Affected</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/04/02/understanding-the-rise-in-adhd-diagnoses-11-of-u-s-children-are-affected/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Apr 2013 11:32:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Alice Park</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The rates of U.S. children affected by attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) are skyrocketing, according to a recent report, but experts caution that the latest numbers require a bit of decoding. That information shows that 11% of children ages 4 to 17 were diagnosed with ADHD, a 16% increase since 2007, the last time that researchers at Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) did a comprehensive survey for the prevalence of the neurobehavior disorder. The rise was especially dramatic among boys, with an estimated 1 in 5 boys in high school diagnosed with ADHD. What’s more, about two-thirds of the children diagnosed were treated with stimulant medications that can improve attention but also come with side effects. Are rates truly climbing at such an alarming rate? Possibly. But many experts believe that’s unlikely. The data was collected by the CDC and analyzed and reported by the New York Times; the CDC plans to publish its own report on the data in the coming months. (MORE: ADHD Medications Improve Decisionmaking, but Are They Being Overused?) To start, the information on ADHD rates came from parents reporting on the diagnosis for their children during telephone interviews. Such reports are useful but not as reliable as the verified diagnoses from medical or school records, says Dr. William Barbaresi, director of the developmental-medicine center at Boston Children’s Hospital. Second, such records-based data suggests that ADHD rates among children may be somewhere between 7.5% and 9.5%, with boys at the higher end of the range, not 11%. In its previous round of analysis, CDC found that ADHD diagnoses rose by 22% between 2003 and &#8217;07, based on the same telephone surveys of 76,000 families in the U.S., climbing by an average of 3% to 6% each year between 2000 and &#8217;10. But the latest figures, which included responses collected between 2011 and &#8217;12, show a far higher prevalence that hints at classrooms full of hyperactive and impulsive kids. “By definition, ADHD requires that symptoms have to have a significant effect on life,” says Barbaresi. “To say that<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=83607&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Q&amp;A: Author Emily Rapp Writes About Loving a Dying Baby</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Mar 2013 18:00:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I had a hard time picking up Emily Rapp’s new book, The Still Point of the Turning World. It collected dust by my bedside for some weeks before I was able to power past the first few pages. Not because Rapp isn’t a gorgeous writer — she is — but because I knew the ending of the story. And it wasn’t happily ever after. Rapp is the parent whom most moms and dads hope they never become. In a world where pictures of kids playing in soccer tournaments, competing in science fairs, smiling, laughing, losing teeth, looking adorable and just generally growing up, abound on Facebook, Rapp has only somber reality to offer. Her son Ronan died of Tay-Sachs disease in February at age 3, three weeks before Still Point was released. &#8220;The death of a baby seems to go against nature,&#8221; she observes. Not every child will continue to get bigger and taller and blow out candles on a birthday cake, welcoming each new year. Hers didn’t. Rapp, 38, doesn’t sugarcoat learning of Ronan’s diagnosis — Tay-Sachs disease brings blindness and seizures and paralysis before it kills children, typically before their third birthday. Rapp was tested prenatally, but Ronan&#8217;s form of the disease was so rare that it was not detected. She recounts the horror of learning that her son had cherry-red spots on the back of his retinas, a telltale sign of the disease. She shares with heart-breaking candor that she wet her pants. In the &#8220;blackness&#8221; she describes, I imagine I would do the same. Rapp, a creative-writing professor, is both brave and unapologetically fearful about what’s to come. Most of all, she is honest. After gathering the courage to finish the book, I talked to her about what platitudes you shouldn’t say to a parent whose child is dying, and the big, bold lessons that Ronan taught her. (MORE: How Do You Parent When There’s No Tomorrow?) People are undoubtedly uncomfortable around the topic of dying children and many have no clue what to say. One<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=82470&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Pediatric Group Supports Same-Sex Marriage</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Mar 2013 16:00:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) says it&#8217;s &#8220;in the best interests&#8221; of the children. The influential group of pediatricians released a policy statement in support of same-sex parents’ right to wed as well as to foster or adopt children. The policy was guided by the organization&#8217;s belief in gay marriage “to promote optimal health and well-being of all children.” “We know enough about child development that we can say that children are nurtured when they have two loving, supportive, committed-to-each-other adults to take care of them,” says Dr. Ben Siegel, a professor of pediatrics and psychiatry at Boston University School of Medicine and a co-author of the policy statement. ”Kids growing up with two same-sex parents are as normally developed as the rest of the population.” MORE: Do Children of Same-Sex Parents Really Fare Worse? About 2 million children are raised in the U.S. by same-sex parents, according to the statement. The policy evolved from two previous positions of the Academy in support of adoption by same-sex couples. The AAP has also previously stated that the data don&#8217;t support any negative impact of a parent&#8217;s same-sex orientation on children&#8217;s emotional and behavioral development. According to the statement, which notes that married people have a groundswell of legal, economic and social support: Scientific evidence affirms that children have similar developmental and emotional needs and receive similar parenting whether they are raised by parents of the same or different genders. If a child has 2 living and capable parents who choose to create a permanent bond by way of civil marriage, it is in the best interests of their child(ren) that legal and social institutions allow and support them to do so, irrespective of their sexual orientation. Is it unusual that the 60,000 pediatricians who comprise the AAP are wading into politics? “Our goal is to support the best interests of children,” says Siegel. “If people understand that as political, so be it. Our politics is what’s best for children.” MORE: Study: Children of Lesbians May Do Better than Their Peers<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=82761&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Who Does More at Home: Men or Women?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 19 Mar 2013 20:00:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In the recent slew of coverage of What&#8217;s Holding Women Back from the Highest Echelons of Leadership, a recurring theme is the revolution at home. Or lack thereof. Men, as I wrote in TIME&#8217;s recent cover story on Sheryl Sandberg&#8217;s book Leaning In, have generally made room for women in the workplace. But the home front remains more of a battleground. Most studies suggest that women are carrying the heavy end of the domestic load. Men are catching up. But they&#8217;re beginning to stagger a bit under the weight. According to an interesting new Pew study, men have taken on vastly more of the domestic workload than they did in 1965 — about two and a half times as much. No surprises there. But a very small percentage of fathers bear the brunt of the housework and childcare in their home. Moms still spend about twice as much time with their children as dads do (13.5 hours per week for mothers in 2011, compared with 7.3 hours for fathers, according to Pew). What has changed is the attitudes of these men have about the shift. They are quickly becoming O.K. with the idea that the mothers of their children will be working outside the home too. This trend has been quite dramatic: &#8220;In 2009, 54% of fathers with children under age 17 said the ideal situation for young children was to have a mother who did not work at all outside the home,&#8221; Pew reports. &#8220;Today only 37% of fathers say that — a drop of 17 percentage points.&#8221; This could well have something to do with the economy. The number of households who can survive on the income of only one of the two potential breadwinners has dwindled since the recent recession. (MORE: Why Husbands Who Share Household Chores Miss Out on Sex) Perhaps as a result, men and women are beginning to feel that old work-life-balance anxiety almost equally. Half the men Pew surveyed expressed difficulty juggling the demands of work and home, as did 56% of women.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=82539&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>A 6-Year-Old Boy Becomes a Girl: Do Schools Need New Rules for Transgender Students?</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/03/01/do-schools-need-new-rules-for-transgender-students/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 01 Mar 2013 17:00:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A year ago, when she was in kindergarten in Fountain, Colo., Coy Mathis became a girl. Until that point, Coy — born a boy — had resisted the boyish t-shirts and jeans that her parents laid out for her, hated the boy&#8217;s backpack she had to carry to school. She wanted to wear tutus and princess dresses, to grow her hair long, to slip into pink Mary Janes. “I am a girl,” she told her parents starting at age 3. After visits to a pediatrician and a psychologist who advised her parents, as mom Kathryn Mathis puts it, “to let her live as who she was,” they finally did. Three months after kindergarten began, Coy transitioned from being a boy to living as a girl. Kindergarteners are pretty forgiving folks, so they accepted that Coy now wore dresses with leggings and used the girls’ bathroom. But in December, Coy’s elementary-school principal issued an ultimatum from the school district: Coy could no longer frequent the girls’ bathroom; she would have to head to private bathrooms reserved for teachers or sick children — or enter the boys’ bathroom. Coy’s parents presented the school with a copy of Colorado’s anti-discrimination law, which protects transgender people’s right to use a bathroom that matches their gender identity. The school didn’t budge, so the Mathis family pulled Coy out to homeschool her and teamed up with the Transgender Legal Defense &#38; Education Fund to file a complaint with the state Division of Civil Rights. The school district has until mid-March to respond. The unusual case points up the need for schools to discuss whether transgender students may need accommodation — or entirely new policies. Might a boy who identifies as a girl and plays on the school tennis team have an advantage over her teammates? Will transgender girls go out for varsity football? (MORE: Gender-Free Baby: Is it O.K. for Parents to Keep Their Child’s Sex a Secret?) Sixteen states have laws that prohibit discrimination on the basis of gender identity. But no one tracks how<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=81334&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>In Texas, a Pregnant Teen Sues Her Parents to Avoid an Abortion</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/02/26/in-texas-a-pregnant-teen-sues-her-parents-to-avoid-an-abortion/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Feb 2013 21:00:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Earlier this month, Jaime Burnside called an attorney in Texas to help her teen-age son. His girlfriend was pregnant and wanted to have the baby, but her parents wanted her to have an abortion. It’s the kind of case that invigorates the Texas Center for Defense of Life, which has handled three similar situations in the two years since it was founded. “Parents think they’re making a decision for their daughters like pulling a tooth or getting their tonsils out,” says Stephen Casey, who spoke to the boy’s mother and agreed to file suit against the girl’s parents. “But now that the girl is pregnant, the parents become grandparents and they can’t make a decision for the girl about her unborn child.” A judge in Houston agreed. Last week, the parents of the 16-year-old girl — identified as R.E.K. in the lawsuit — said they would comply with an injunction that prohibits them from forcing their daughter to end her pregnancy. According to the lawsuit, the divorced parents also agreed to let the girl continue to use her cell phone and drive her car, both of which apparently had been confiscated after she announced that she was pregnant. The girl’s mom tried to talk her daughter into an abortion, saying she would be “making the biggest mistake of her life” if she had the baby, and the girl’s father texted her that she “needs an ass whoopin’,” according to the lawsuit. The girls’ parents have said the allegations are not true. The parents’ attorney could not be reached. The situation is unspooling not long after Texas cut funds for family-planning services. Nor does the state provide comprehensive sex education in schools, preferring to emphasize abstinence. “We know teens have sex so it would be nice to prepare them to make good decisions,” says Elizabeth Nash, who tracks states’ reproductive rights legislation for the Guttmacher Institute, a pro-choice research group. “Being a teen mother is a very hard road to hoe.” Burnside can attest to that first-hand. When she was 15,<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=81055&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Just Say No to Talking About Your Own Drug Use with Your Kids</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/02/26/just-say-no-to-talking-about-your-own-drug-use-with-your-kids/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Feb 2013 18:30:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Maia Szalavitz</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Parents who talk to their kids about their own, past drug may not be helping their kids to avoid drugs. “Talk to your kids about drugs,” has been a refrain sung to parents by anti-drug activists and in public service message for decades.  But if these conversations include information about your own past drug use, a new study suggests that it could send potentially harmful mixed messages. Researchers from the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign studied 561 6th to 8th graders, most of whom were white or Hispanic, about their drug use as well as conversations they had with their parents about drugs. Reporting in the journal Human Communications Research, the researchers say that youth whose parents discussed the dangers of drugs and their disapproval of drug use had more anti-drug attitudes.  Among the Hispanic students, this was linked with lower levels of reported alcohol use, while among white students it was associated with less reported marijuana use. No effect was found for either group on smoking. MORE: ADHD Medications Improve Decision-Making, But Are They Being Over-Used? But if parents also discussed their own youthful drinking or drug use, these conversations were linked with a reduction in anti-drug attitudes.  “The more often the parents talked about regret over their own use, the bad things that happened, and that they&#8217;d never use it again, the students were more likely to report pro-substance-use beliefs,&#8221; lead author Jennifer Kam said to LiveScience. “Kids might be interpreting it as &#8216;Mom and Dad used, and they&#8217;re still here,&#8217; she told NPR. This confirms prior research that suggested that having former drug addicts tell their stories to teens can glamorize the condition, rather than highlighting the risks and deterring use. “[T]he results suggest that parents’ references to their own prior use may be associated with their children’s perceptions that substance use is more common or prevalent among their peers or that their parents may not disapprove,” the authors write. And those perceptions about peers are important: numerous studies found that when youth have exaggerated ideas about how common<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=81063&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>&#8220;Sticks And Stones:&#8221; Does Facebook and Twitter Give Bullying More Power?</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/02/22/sticks-and-stones-does-facebook-and-twitter-give-bullying-more-power/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Feb 2013 18:00:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Alexandra Sifferlin</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In Emily Bazelon&#8217;s latest book, &#8220;Sticks and Stones,&#8221; the senior editor for Slate argues that the Internet and social media make teen bullying more vicious and challenging to control. In an interview with the New York Times, Bazelon acknowledges parents&#8217; role in navigating bullying as a tough one: &#8220;It’s obviously a huge challenge for parents, finding the balance you strike between protecting kids and expecting them to be a little bit tough, and learn how to stand up for themselves. It starts with that base idea that you have to know your kid, and know what they’re capable of, and give them room to do what they can do — not step in reflexively whenever there’s a problem. I think that builds some resilience in,&#8221; she says. Teaching kids how to safely live on social media is important, as is allowing them to experience some of the painful parts of growing up, but research published this week shows that the effects of bullying are long-lasting and can even lead to psychiatric problems in adulthood. Individuals who reported being involved in bullying experienced anxiety, depression, and drug and alcohol abuse or addiction into adulthood. In discussing the study, study author William Copeland of Duke University Medical Center in Durham, North Carolina told me: “Bullying is not just a part of childhood, or some sort of a harmless activity between peers. This is actually something that has very detrimental, and very long lasting effects&#8230;What this study really suggests is that what goes on at school, and what goes on between peers, may be just as important in understanding their long-term function as what goes on at home. In childhood, when kids are in school, they spend a lot more time with their peers than they do with their parents so we should not be so surprised about this. When we see kids having trouble, we tend to ask them about things going on at home and we don’t tend to ask them how they’re getting along with their peers and whether they’re the victim of bullying. I think we need<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=80890&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Hover No More: Helicopter Parents May Breed Depression and Incompetence in Their Children</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/02/22/hover-no-more-helicopter-parents-may-breed-depression-and-incompetence-in-their-children/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Feb 2013 13:00:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Helicopter parents, stop hovering: it’s officially not good for your kids &#8212; especially if they&#8217;re already grown. A new study in the Journal of Child and Family Studies found that being overly involved in your grownup kids’ lives can do more harm than good. The research was conducted by the same scientists who showed last year that intensive parenting — constantly stimulating your children — can make moms more depressed. You may think you’re helping out by phoning your kids’ college professors to haggle over the difference between a B+ and an A–, but that interference may be undermining young adults&#8217; ability to problem-solve and fend for themselves. Constantly texting adult children and friending them on Facebook — letting them fly the coop but still demanding daily check-ins — is not exactly building a generation of confident and resilient grownups. And the problem only snowballs. “Parents are sending an unintentional message to their children that they are not competent,” says Holly Schiffrin, lead author of the study and an associate professor of psychology at the University of Mary Washington. “When adult children don’t get to practice problem-solving skills, they can’t solve these problems in the future.” (MORE: The Growing Backlash Against Overparenting) To reach this conclusion, Schiffrin and colleagues surveyed 297 college-age children about their parents, asking a barrage of questions: Are your parents involved in selecting classes? Do they contact your professors about your grades? (Schiffrin herself has been on the receiving end of such calls more than once.) Do they intervene if you have a roommate issue? The students also reported on how satisfied they were with their lives, as well as their feelings of depression and anxiety. And they were questioned about the “self-determination theory,” which holds that every person has three basic needs in order to be happy: they must feel autonomous, competent and connected to other people. (MORE: How ‘Kidsick’ Parents Stay Obsessively Connected with Their Kids in Summer Camp) Their answers showed that helicopter parenting decreased adult children’s feelings of autonomy, competence and connection. In<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=80861&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>New Guidelines for Genetic Testing in Children</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/02/21/new-guidelines-for-genetic-testing-in-children/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 21 Feb 2013 17:30:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Genetics]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Should worried parents be able to test their babies for diseases they may develop down the road, just because they’re curious? Should worried teens be able to screen themselves, without parental knowledge, for disorders that may manifest decades in their future? And what about delving into your kids’ DNA on your own, with the help of direct-to-consumer testing? These are some of the difficult issues addressed by a new statement on genetic testing in children issued by the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the American College of Medical Genetics and Genomics (ACMG). The joint statement — a first for the two groups — acknowledges that genetic testing is evolving so rapidly that physicians need guidance navigating what can be an ethical, legal and social thicket. The guidelines are not binding, but rather recommendations for how physicians should ideally proceed as genetic testing grows increasingly more complex. “Genetics is changing rapidly before our eyes,” says Dr. Lainie Friedman Ross, a professor of pediatrics and clinical ethics at the University of Chicago and the statement’s lead author. “From a general pediatrician’s perspective, it’s really important we start thinking about this.” (MORE: Do All Women Need Genetic Testing Before Pregnancy?) The agencies’ policies were long due for an update. The ACMG last issued a statement in 1995; the AAP came out with one in 2001. The current guidelines appear in two versions — the journal Pediatrics contains the policy statement, while Genetics in Medicine includes a technical report that delves into the framework of the recommendations and outlines the arguments behind the policy. “This very thoughtfully lays out the benefits of testing but also some of the risks inherent in testing so that health-care providers and parents and patients understand the ramifications and know when it’s useful and when it may not be so useful,” says Dr. Mira Irons, associate chief of the division of genetics at Boston Children’s Hospital. Nearly all parents encounter genetic testing as soon as they welcome a child into the world. All states perform newborn screening, mostly<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=80692&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Q&amp;A: The (Unconventional) Secrets of Happy Families</title>
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		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In a veritable sea of parenting books, the title of the newest entry makes even the most skeptical parent sit up and take note: The Secrets of Happy Families. The latest book by best-selling author Bruce Feiler contains a refreshing amount of counterintuitive advice: forget family dinners, for example. And let your kids choose their punishments. Feiler, 48, the father of 7-year-old twin girls, writes a column about contemporary families for The New York Times, but he doesn’t dole out his own advice in the pages of Secrets. Instead, he goes to the experts, who in this case happen to be some pretty surprising folks. Forget the typically well-credentialed child-development talking heads; Feiler opts to reach out to Warren Buffett’s advisers for insight on meting out allowance, to Green Berets for tips on building a tightly knit family unit and to members of the Harvard Negotiation Project, who dish on the best ways to resolve family conflicts. Feiler — who has written about faith in Walking the Bible and family in The Council of Dads — shares the reasons behind why he decided to write an unconventional parenting book — and the punishment his girls most recently selected (it involves push-ups): What prompted you to want to write a book like this? Feiler: I wrote about the secrets of having a happy family not because I had a happy family but because I wanted one. I was incredibly frustrated as a parent. Our life was chaotic but I was especially frustrated that so much of this space is dominated by what I call the family improvement industry. Parents are in this straitjacket where the only ideas we are allowed to implement must come approved by shrinks or self-help gurus or other family experts. But in every other area of life — business, sports, the workplace, the military — there are all these new ideas about how to make groups work. A family is a group. I’m not wagging my finger. I don’t have a country like France. I don’t have a mascot like a tiger. [Referring to<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=80567&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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