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		<title>Lessons for a Good Marriage, from the Divorced Who Finally Got It Right</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2013/01/21/lessons-for-a-good-marriage-from-the-divorced-who-finally-got-it-right/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Jan 2013 17:00:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Francine Russo</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[With the divorce rate in the U.S. hitting 30% to 50%, it&#8217;s inevitable that in the course of dating, you&#8217;ll run into someone with an ex (or two). And somewhere into that first or second date, you’ve probably asked what went wrong. I know I have. And when my date begins his answer with the words my wife, I&#8217;m ready to duck out. For these people, it’s always about what the other guy did, how awful the ex was. I’ve always been a believer in the credo that every relationship involves two people. And no matter how evil my ex turned out to be, I played a role. Got to have. So there&#8217;s bound to be something I need to do differently next time. (MORE: D Is for Divorce: Sesame Street Tackles Another Touchy Subject) Change thyself: that’s the lesson emerging from an ongoing National Institutes of Health–funded study of 373 married couples in one Midwest county that began in 1986. The study was launched by Terri Orbuch, author of Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship. Orbuch, a therapist and professor of sociology at Oakland University, recently analyzed data on the 46% of her couples who eventually divorced and the 71% of those who have since remarried or formed long-term relationships. Her findings reveal which behaviors significantly predict finding a new relationship. And they also yield some lessons for making any relationship better. Orbuch found her divorced people were significantly more likely to find a new love if they could let go of the past — and that included not blaming their ex-spouse for the divorce. If you blame your ex, Orbuch says, you&#8217;re less likely to become &#8220;emotionally neutral,&#8221; an emotional state she found was more strongly linked to finding new relationships. (MORE: Planning a Vacation &#8230; with Your Ex-Spouse?) Letting go of the past is an important emotional step. But there are five specific behaviors Orbuch identified that made the divorced people in her sample twice as likely to succeed in finding a<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=78380&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>The TomKat Split: Divorce in America by the Numbers</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2012/07/06/the-tomkat-split-divorce-in-america-by-the-numbers/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Jul 2012 18:45:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[You may have noticed that Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes are getting divorced. Their marital liquidation was preceded by news of another: Dominique Strauss Kahn, former head of the IMF and former defendant in a sexual assault case, was reportedly being left by his hitherto supernaturally loyal wife, Anne Sinclair. The two men have something in common; or rather, the two departing women have something in common: they’re both third wives. While Holmes&#8217; divorce filing apparently blindsided Mr Cruise, who was away on location filming a movie, neither split was all that unexpected. It&#8217;s not just because celebrity magazines have been predicting a TomKat rupture since the day their wedding vows were uttered, or that, you know, Mr. Strauss Kahn was a cheat. It&#8217;s because third marriages break up more often than first or second unions. (MORE: Planning a Vacation…With Your Ex-Spouse?) There&#8217;s a figure floating around the Internet that some 70% of third marriages fail, but the real numbers tell a slightly different story. It’s also commonly agreed that about half of all marriages fall apart, but while true, that stat also doesn&#8217;t tell the full story. Overall, divorce rates are actually falling. And among the well-educated and wealthy who marry after the age of 26, they&#8217;re falling quite dramatically. The vast majority of American marriages between two people like Cruise and Holmes make it to the 10-year mark. (Theirs lasted six.) About 30% of people in Cruise’s demographic — white American men between the ages of 40 and 49 (Cruise&#8217;s age when Holmes filed for divorce) — have ever been divorced, according to the most recent (2009) Census figures. And half of them had remarried. About 12% of those guys had then divorced again. That is, 24% of fortysomething white guys&#8217; second marriages had failed. Which brings us to third marriages, after which point the Census stops counting. It feels like a lot of people are in — or leaving — their third marriage (hello, Kelsey Grammer!), but they aren’t. Cruise&#8217;s case is quite unusual (even apart from<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=63412&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Planning a Vacation…With Your Ex-Spouse?</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2012/07/05/planning-a-vacationwith-your-ex-spouse/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jul 2012 12:15:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Suzanna de Baca</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It’s too early to know whether Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes will join Hollywood’s group of amicable ex’s who happily vacation together with their kids. When tabloids run photos of Bruce and Demi — or any other famously divorced couple — reuniting in some exotic location, it kind of stops me in my tracks. If my marriage didn&#8217;t go as planned, would I ever pack my bags and go on a trip with my ex and his new family? My former co-worker Susan did, and it was a bit of a disaster. But the problems weren’t due to family squabbles or too much togetherness — it was the money. Right about now you may be wondering: is this really a common practice? According to friends and a few articles I’ve read — yes! Susan isn’t the only non-celebrity vacationing with her ex. As blended families become more commonplace, many dynamics are changing, creating a new set of norms, including how to handle financial arrangements. (MORE: Scientology Parenting: Do Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes Disagree on Religion for Suri?) Which brings me to Susan and her tumultuous trip. After the divorce, she remained single while her former spouse remarried. A decade later, Susan’s well-meaning ex-husband approached her with an interesting proposition: a resort vacation for their two kids (now teenagers) with both of their families. Was she expecting it to be her dream vacation? No. But she was on good terms with him and thought it would be the right decision for the kids, so she said yes. Susan and her ex agreed beforehand that they would split all the expenses for their kids and that he would cover the costs for his wife and son. It seemed simple enough — until they all arrived at the resort and the financial plan got really complicated really fast. Susan had underestimated the pressure she’d face when her kids wanted to join their stepbrother in pricier activities than she’d had in mind. She had also underestimated the resentment she’d feel when her ex<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=63304&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>According to a Wisconsin Bill, Single Moms Are a Child Abuse Threat</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2012/03/14/according-to-a-wisconsin-bill-single-moms-are-a-child-abuse-threat/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Mar 2012 19:30:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[As if it weren&#8217;t hard enough already to be a single mom — or dad — a new bill in Wisconsin is associating single parenthood with child abuse. Senate Bill 507 is sponsored by State Sen. Glenn Grothman and State Rep. Donald Pridemore, both Republicans. It takes the state-funded Child Abuse Prevention Board to task for not railing against single parenthood. Grothman described to Fox 6 Now what he says is a direct association between abused kids and parents who aren’t married. “A child is 20 times more likely to be sexually abused if they are raised by say, a mother and a boyfriend, than their mother and father,” Grothman said. According to the language of the bill, its aim is to promote “public awareness of the problems of child abuse and neglect. In promoting those campaigns and materials, the [child abuse prevention] board shall emphasize nonmarital parenthood as a contributing factor to child abuse and neglect.” MORE: Bully: A Hard Documentary, but Does It Deserve to Be Rated R? The bill has outraged single parents everywhere, including in Wisconsin, where they make up a third of all parents. One of those parents, Lena Taylor, just happens to be a Democratic state senator — and a single mom. She told Fox 6: “I would say my life speaks against what the senator has stated,” Democratic State Senator Lena Taylor of Milwaukee — who is a single mother, said. Taylor says this is the latest in a line of Republican-backed bills that are hostile toward women.“Is this their style, yes — to single out some group and somehow or another criminalize them — like they criminalized doctors for legal procedures?” Taylor said. “Do I agree with it? I don’t. Will I fight it? I will. But do they have the votes and is it possible it will pass? Yes.” The legislation is just one more example of states seeking to erode women’s rights and credibility — everything from laws that all but mandate invasive vaginal ultrasounds prior to abortions and bills that lift<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=55329&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Gingrich and the &#8216;Open Marriage&#8217; Question: How Newt Can Spin Things to His Advantage</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2012/01/20/gingrich-and-the-open-marriage-question-how-newt-can-spin-things-to-his-advantage/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 20 Jan 2012 13:45:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Did the Speaker of the House really suggest to his second wife Marianne that they break their conjugal gridlock using a Newt-sharing program? Only two people know for sure: Marianne, who says her former husband did, in the death throes of their marriage, float the idea of opening the union to other trading partners, and Gingrich, who says that&#8217;s bunkum, that all their friends from that time will agree with him, and that to even ask him about it in a presidential debate &#8220;is as close to despicable as anything [he] can imagine.&#8221; But, honestly, how would these friends even know? Did the Gingriches mention it in their 1999 annual newsletter? &#8220;Considered open marriage. Decided against it. Merry Christmas!&#8221; Did Gingrich discuss it with buddies at the GOPAC? &#8220;Oh man, did my new initiative ever fail to make it through the house&#8230;&#8221; Can either of them even be relied on to retain an accurate memory of things that were said in as fraught a time as the end of a marriage? Marianne Gingrich appears to believe that her husband offered to stay married to her if she let him play house with then-congressional aide Callista Bisek, who is now his third wife. If that&#8217;s not what he had wanted, then he was either not on message or offering a straw man. Either way, it&#8217;s a mistake for Gingrich to act all huffy now about being asked about his ex-wife&#8217;s claims, which she is not, after all, making for the first time. You can say a lot of things about your spouse of 18 years, but you can&#8217;t pretend her opinion of you is ill-informed. When asked about the claims in the South Carolina debate, which was happening as Marianne&#8217;s interview aired on ABC on Thursday night, candidates Rick Santorum and Ron Paul talked vaguely about forgiveness and slipped in a reference to their own robust marriages, while Mitt Romney declined to weigh in, saying we needed to get back to the real issues. (Hello, Mr. Romney? If we&#8217;re thinking of<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=51897&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Is Divorce Counseling for Happily Married Women Really Necessary?</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2011/08/12/is-divorce-counseling-for-happily-married-women-really-necessary/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Aug 2011 12:00:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The marriage statistics have been drilled into everyone’s heads: half of all &#8220;I do&#8217;s&#8221; end up as &#8220;I don&#8217;ts.&#8221; But now, news of a new service that counsels happily married women on the ins and outs of divorce has some people wondering about tempting fate. Last month, Manhattan divorce attorney Jeff Landers spoke with CBS New York about the importance of advising women who have no intention of leaving their husbands about what they&#8217;d need to know if they changed their minds. Consider it a marital insurance policy. On the website  for his firm, Bedrock Divorce, he makes the case that, for female business owners, “&#8221;divorce-proofing &#8230; is a part of a sound financial plan, like any other risk management you would normally undertake — after all, you have insurance to protect you against other unforeseen events.&#8221; And for women who don&#8217;t have businesses, it&#8217;s time to get informed about the family finances. MORE: Stay-at-Home Dads Are More Likely to Divorce Trouble is, contends Landers, many women don&#8217;t know the details of how much their family is worth. They don&#8217;t know how much their husband earns, how much they spend each month and where their money is invested. On ForbesWoman, he writes: Just because a woman is &#8220;happily married,&#8221; doesn’t mean she shouldn’t have a solid, working knowledge of her financial status, cash flow and net worth. Researchers cite &#8220;concerns about money&#8221; as one of the number one triggers for marital arguments and conflict, and personally, I feel that many of these worries are based on misunderstanding and miscommunication. Why not eliminate some of this confusion before it causes trouble? NEXT: &#8220;Sounds like walking into a meat grinder&#8221;<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=40629&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>It&#8217;s Jack White&#8217;s Anniversary — I Mean Divorce — Party!</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2011/06/10/its-jack-whites-anniversary-%e2%80%94-i-mean-divorce-%e2%80%94-party/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 10 Jun 2011 22:15:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Jack White, he of the pale face and White Stripes, and Karen Elson, she of the long legs and shaved eyebrows, are splitting after six years of marriage. We know this, because they&#8217;re celebrating it in advance with a party. (We hope their immediate families found out another way.) The invitation to their anniversary/divorce fiesta almost looks like an some kind of arch joke: &#8220;Please help us celebrate the making and breaking of the sacred union of marriage with our best friends and animals.&#8221; But the couple released a statement that confirmed their intention to be put asunder, New York Magazine reported. White has made it something of a policy to have almost freakishly peaceable divorces. He continued performing with his first wife Meg White of the White Stripes after they split, even trying to persuade the press that they were siblings. Since marrying White, Elson has been doing less modeling in favor of raising their two kids in Nashville and pursuing a musical career. The two got married in Brazil, in a canoe on the Amazon, by a Shaman. A Catholic priest blessed the union just to be doubly safe. But, alas, even as ecumenical a nuptial crew as that couldn&#8217;t keep the divorce voodoo off yet another rock star-model coupling. It&#8217;s sad for the kids — little Scarlett and Henry Lee — but we can at least look forward to seeing how agreeably White&#8217;s future marriages end.<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=35740&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Q&amp;A: Why Commuting Sucks the Life Out of You</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2011/06/07/qa-why-commuting-sucks-the-life-out-of-you/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 07 Jun 2011 17:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Amie Ninh</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Last month, a Swedish study made a splash when it found that couples in which one partner commutes a long way to work (more than 45 mins.) are 40% more likely to divorce than couples who don&#8217;t have to travel so far for their jobs. The finding was based on statistical data from just over 2 million Swedish households, though the data didn&#8217;t shed light on why commuting was so bad for marriage. However, the results are in line with past studies suggesting that commuting isn&#8217;t just harmful for coupledom, but also for overall well-being, contributing to obesity, stress and loneliness. As Slate&#8217;s Annie Lowrey so aptly described the daily trudge to work: Commuting is a migraine-inducing life-suck — a mundane task about as pleasurable as assembling flat-pack furniture or getting your license renewed, and you have to do it every day. If you are commuting, you are not spending quality time with your loved ones. You are not exercising, doing challenging work, having sex, petting your dog, or playing with your kids (or your Wii). You are not doing any of the things that make human beings happy. Instead, you are getting nauseous on a bus, jostled on a train, or cut off in traffic. Healthland dug a little deeper into all the potential reasons that commuting is such a drain on our health and happiness, by speaking with three experts: Erika Sandow of Umeå University, the author of the Swedish research; Susan Hanson, professor of geography at Clark University, who independently reviewed Sandow&#8217;s work; and Richard Wener, a professor of environmental psychology at the Polytechnic Institute of New York University. The researchers agree that commuting pretty much sucks, but there are at least a couple of ways to lessen the stress. TIME: What is it exactly about commuting that causes so much distress? Sandow: If you have long commuting time, this can cause a time pressure in your daily life. You are away for a longer time during the day, and you spend less time at home with<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=35105&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Children of Divorce Struggle More With Math and Social Skills</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2011/06/02/children-of-divorce-struggle-more-with-math-and-social-skills/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 02 Jun 2011 12:00:35 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Bonnie Rochman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Children of divorce have poorer math and interpersonal social skills than their peers, and they battle anxiety, loneliness, low self-esteem and sadness, according to new research published Thursday in the American Sociological Review. They have trouble forming and maintaining friendships, expressing their feelings in positive ways, showing sensitivity to others’ feelings, comforting other children and getting along with people who are different, according to Hyun Sik Kim, the study’s author and a Ph.D. candidate in sociology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. The problems don’t resolve once the divorce is complete, but neither do they intensify. “Children of divorce don’t appear to catch up with their peers,” says Kim. (More on Time.com: The Schwarzenegger Kids: Coping with Parental Betrayal in the Public Eye) Although Kim anticipated finding evidence that children struggle in the “pre-divorce period,” before parents initiate divorce proceedings, the study found otherwise. Rather than reacting to the perceived conflict that leads to moms and dads filing for divorce, children start struggling once the divorce is underway. Analyzing data from the Early Childhood Longitudinal Study-Kindergarten Class 1998 to 1999, Kim looked at 3,585 kids from kindergarten through fifth grade. He zeroed in on the 142 children whose parents split up between first and third grade. (More on Time.com: Are Mom and Dad&#8217;s Problems Keeping Baby Up at Night?) Kim observed the children four times — in the spring of kindergarten, first grade, third grade and fifth grade — and found that children of divorce trailed other children by about 12% in terms of their progress on standardized math tests, when other factors were not considered. He found no corresponding lag in reading scores. That might be because math skills rely on cumulative knowledge more than reading skills do. “If children of divorce do not understand one thing, it may be hard to catch up,” says Kim. “Reading skills are not as sensitive to external influences.” That children whose family structure is falling apart are more prone to experiencing social distress is not surprising. Stressed-out parents can create stressed-out kids, and arguments<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=34836&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>What We Can Learn from the Schwarzenegger-Shriver Split</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2011/05/11/what-we-can-learn-from-the-schwarzenegger-shriver-split/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 11 May 2011 12:00:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Each marriage is its own little ecosystem. When breakdown occurs, it&#8217;s impossible to discern from the outside the exact chain of events that led to systemic failure. This is especially true of high-wattage marriages like the 25-year union of Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver, which have pressures — from politics and showbiz — most partnerships don&#8217;t have. But while each one is unique, most marriages, like most systems, occasionally display similar patterns. TIME.com asked some well-respected therapists to weigh in on what those patterns might be, and what regular people can learn from the Arnold-Maria split. (More on TIME.com: See pictures of Maria Shriver&#8217;s career.) Several therapists pointed to recent stresses in Shriver&#8217;s life. &#8220;It&#8217;s often, in my experience, the loss of and grieving for significant family members, like a parent, that destabilize a couple&#8217;s relationship,&#8221; says therapist Barry Ginsberg. &#8220;This is difficult to reconcile without help.&#8221; (Sargent Shriver, Maria&#8217;s father, died in January after a long illness. Her mother Eunice passed away in 2009.) This is particularly true for wives, says Steve Stosny, therapist and author of Love Without Hurt. &#8220;The husband typically withdraws from the grieving or ailing wife, making her feel isolated in a time of vulnerability,&#8221; he says. &#8220;Once she recovers on her own, she sees no point to the relationship where the man has just proven to her that he won&#8217;t be there for her when she most needs him.&#8221; As a rule, men prefer to deal with stress differently, in isolation. Sharing it makes them feel inadequate as protectors, as, says Stosny, does a wife&#8217;s long-term grief. &#8220;Men in general cannot bear to see their wives distressed or depressed, especially when it goes on for a while,&#8221; he says. &#8220;They can handle short-term, acute problems where they can respond like heroes, but over the long haul, they are not so good at nursing.&#8221; (More on TIME.com: See the top 10 most shocking celebrity-relationship flameouts.) Other therapists speculate that the origins of the cleft may have arisen much earlier. &#8220;It looks to me like it&#8217;s<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=33015&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Schwarzenegger and Shriver in Splitsville</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2011/05/10/schwarzenegger-and-shriver-in-splitsville/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 10 May 2011 04:07:33 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[John and Elizabeth Edwards&#8217; separation was sad. Al and Tipper Gore&#8217;s was shocking. But now Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver have packed it in. When even such an institution finds it hard to keep it together, what hope is there for the rest of us? According to the Los Angeles Times, Shriver has already moved out of the couple&#8217;s Brentwood mansion. After the paper began to dig about, the couple released a statement: &#8220;This has been a time of great personal and professional transition for each of us. After a great deal of thought, reflection, discussion and prayer, we came to this decision together. At this time, we are living apart while we work on the future of our relationship.&#8221; (More on TIME.com: See pictures of Maria Shriver&#8217;s career.) The statement goes on to make the standard pleas for privacy and declarations of shared personal goals in raising their four children, ranging in age from 13 to 21. While the news is not quite as eye opening as the announcement of the Gores&#8217; split, it&#8217;s certainly unexpected; though Schwarzenegger and Shriver came from different political backgrounds, they had seemed to find a way to make their differences an asset over their 25-year marriage. Having had to hash out a lot of stuff early on, they were, it seemed from the outside, masters at spousal conflict resolution. Like the Gores and the Edwardses, Schwarzenegger and Shriver waited until they were out of office to make changes in their marital arrangements. It&#8217;s unclear whether their union was the victim of dreams too long deferred or of the malaise that comes with the rapid deflation of power. Shriver gave up an impressive journalism career when her husband took office. Schwarzenegger recently expressed a desire to get back into making action movies. (More on TIME.com: See the top 10 most shocking celebrity-relationship flameouts.) As countless celebrities and reality-show newlyweds have proved, coupledom and the public eye are not always easy bedfellows. While divorce is no longer lethal to a career, and has arguably helped<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=32955&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>The Divorce So Bad it Made the Family Judge Flip Out</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2011/01/05/the-family-judge-who-flipped-out/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 05 Jan 2011 20:41:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Spending days ringside to other people&#8217;s parents bickering and arguing and general dysfunction takes a soul strong of stomach and long on patience, which is why only a hardy few to be a family court judge. But it doesn&#8217;t mean they&#8217;re not funny. Either that, or one Canadian justice found an unusual way to vent. Sick of the shenanigans of a couple from, ironically, the honeymoon capital of Niagara, he ruled that the wife should have full custody of their 13-year-old daughter but that the father should only pay $1 (and that&#8217;s a Canadian dollar) a month in child support. But it was the way he ruled that has everyone talking. Ontario Superior Court Judge Joseph Quinn&#8217;s 31-page December decision—which made the local papers and is still doing the rounds of legal circles on the internet—is filled with the kind of black humor and derision one would imagine is usually kept for close be-robed colleagues only. He chided the couple for &#8220;marinating in a mutual hatred so intense as to surely amount to a personality disorder,&#8221; and said the chances of amicable resolution were &#8220;laughable.&#8221; The wife had poisoned their daughter &#8220;irreparably&#8221; against the father who, the judge admitted, had &#8220;a near-empty parenting tool box.&#8221; (More on TIME.com: 5 New Reasons to Get or Stay Married This Year) Quinn mocked the couple&#8217;s habit of sending abusive, vulgarity-laced texts to each other and their inability to be civil at their children&#8217;s sporting events. On one occasion apparently, Catherine, the wife, had tried to run Larry over with her car — &#8220;always a telltale sign that a husband and wife are drifting apart,&#8221; the judge noted. Catherine&#8217;s relatives, several of whom are Hell&#8217;s Angels, made death threats against her ex , which the judge mentioned, adding that  &#8220;on Oct. 18, 2007, a nautical theme was added. According to Larry, &#8216;Catherine’s sister-in-law yelled out her window that I was going to be floating in the canal dead.&#8217; &#8221; That Catherine told her children they&#8217;d go to jail if they even called their dad<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=21640&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Memo to Gamer-Wives: You Can&#8217;t Take it with You</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2010/12/28/memo-to-gamer-wives-you-cant-take-it-with-you/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Dec 2010 23:44:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A new candidate for membership in the unusual divorce settlement club: a judge in China has reportedly denied a woman&#8217;s claim that she owns half of the virtual assets accrued during her marriage. According to the Beijing Morning Post, the marriage of a gamer-couple—not the ones pictured—came unstuck when neither of them would tidy their home up. (Somewhere in screenwriter-land, someone is already working on a romcom with just this premise.) The couple, who apparently had less in common in the real world than in the virtual, had merged accounts under his name after their happy nuptials and were building a little nest egg of virtual assets. (More on Time.com: See the top 10 video games of 2010) Virtual assets are currency that only exists in cyberspace. You may laugh, but they represent something of a blooming, if niche industry. People are  willing to spend real dollars to send other people virtual gifts or flowers. They&#8217;re handy if you&#8217;re trying to date online, for example. These virtual assets can also be accrued by game-playing and reaching certain benchmarks. Generally, they&#8217;re needed to play games at a high level, to buy extra ammunition for the first person shooter or to unlock another level of the game. These games are particularly popular in China, where, in a practice known as &#8220;gold farming,&#8221;  gamers sometimes reportedly sell the points they accrued in a game to Westerners who don&#8217;t have the inclination or time to labor at the lower levels of the game and accrue the points themselves. (More on Time.com: Video games to look forward to in 2011) So, apparently, the gamer wife, who was not named, has to now start at the beginning of all her games again, since her husband won&#8217;t giver her any of the points in the account and a judge won&#8217;t make him. But she&#8217;s learned a valuable real world lesson the wrist-aching way: if you&#8217;re going to have a joint account, make sure your name is on it. Also, you may want to discuss who&#8217;s going to<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=21011&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>One Person&#8217;s Divorce Is Another&#8217;s Investment Opportunity</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2010/12/06/one-persons-divorce-is-anothers-investment-opportunity/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Dec 2010 19:15:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Is it ethical to make money by investing in someone else&#8217;s divorce? That&#8217;s the question raised by a fascinating story in today&#8217;s New York Times about a new company founded, unsurprisingly, in Beverly Hills, that finances people who don&#8217;t have enough ready cash to take their divorces to trial. Called Balance Point Divorce Funding, the company was founded by divorcee and lawyer Stacey Napp, whose ex-husband, David, she claims, tried to hide his assets when she left him. She sued him and after eight years of legal battles, prevailed. Now she offers to finance other women who want to sue their spouses for a larger share of the marital assets, but don&#8217;t have the liquidity to do so. In return, Balance Point gets a cut of the winnings. (More on Time.com: Will the Market Kill Your Marriage?) Marital dissolution, which has been a good business for lawyers for years, is now drawing the eye of other industries. A new company called WedLock offers divorce insurance, party suppliers will set you up with your own divorce cake and gifts, there are several divorce magazines and websites, and the Huffington Post has an entire section devoted to divorce. But Balance Point, which will bankroll your divorce, is a new phenomenon. It has a pretty specific market; Napp says she tends to work with women, usually moms whose primary job is raising small kids and whose soon-to-be-exes run their own businesses and can therefore control (or hide) the flow of information about finances. The net worth of the individuals is usually somewhere between $2 million and $15 million. (More on Time.com: Who Needs Marriage?) In Napp&#8217;s experience, couples with more money than that often have pre- or postnuptial agreements, or can afford to divide up the assets in a way that won&#8217;t materially affect the quality of either of their lives. &#8220;Anything south of $15 million, when you divide that in half and take out the legal fees, you&#8217;re not in the same house, you&#8217;re not taking the same trips — your life<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=18584&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Do Kids of Divorce Have Strokes More Often?</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2010/11/22/do-kids-of-divorce-have-strokes-more-often/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 22 Nov 2010 12:31:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Of all the odd and unexpected consequences of divorce — missing kitchen utensils, kids with two sets of everything, a weird sense of sadness yet liberation — this is a new one. A cross-sectional study of 13,000 Canadians found that people whose parents had divorced had significantly higher risk of stroke in later life, compared with those whose parents stayed married. The study, conducted by University of Toronto professor Esme Fuller Thompson and graduate students Angela Dalton and Rukshan Mehta doesn&#8217;t prove that a couple&#8217;s divorce will cause strokes in their kids. But it does find an intriguing association: the children of parents who split had twice the odds of stroke of people of the same age who grew up in a family that remained together. (More on Time.com: Can an iPhone App Save Your Marriage?) The researchers, who presented their findings at The Gerontological Society of America&#8216;s annual meeting in New Orleans on Nov. 22, controlled for education, income, race, sex, diabetes and other variables. Even when adjusted for all that, the association remained. &#8220;The link does not appear to be due to adult health behaviors, adult socioeconomic status, mental health or diabetes,&#8221; says Fuller Thompson. As far as the researchers are aware this is the first study that has come upon this connection and Fuller Thompson cautions that the results need to be replicated by somebody else. &#8220;There are several potential mediators we could not investigate in this study,&#8221; she says, including diet, cholesterol levels, blood pressure, family history of stroke, childhood socioeconomic status. (More on Time.com: Were You Born This (Un)Happy, or Did You Marry Into It?) That last one may be a doozy, since divorces, especially those of, say, 50 years ago (when the stroke sufferers in the study would have been children), were probably rarer, more stressful and more likely to impoverish their mothers, who were less likely than modern women to have been employed outside the home. But that&#8217;s just a hypothesis. &#8220;Research on childhood poverty and on childhood abuse suggests that severe and<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=16919&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>And You Think Your Kids Are Expensive</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2010/10/22/and-you-think-your-kids-are-expensive/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 23 Oct 2010 01:29:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Kirk Kerkorian agreed on Oct. 22 to pay $100,000 month in child support, which sounds like a lot, although it&#8217;s not even $140 an hour. While Kerkorian is—forgive the business jargon—feculently, filthily rich, that&#8217;s still a pretty big childcare outlay to look after one 12-year-old, especially one he didn&#8217;t technically father. And it&#8217;s not all. According to a document obtained by TMZ, the billionaire also agreed to pay more than $10 million in back child support. The settlement came more than eight years after Kirk and Lisa were married for one month, a union that has had all the drama and pathos of a movie made by MGM, which coincidentally, Kerkorian used to own. (More on Time.com: 5 Pregnancy Taboos Explained (or Debunked)) The  May-December romance of the tennis pro Lisa Bonder and Las Vegas mogul Kerkorian culminated in a whirlwind 28-day marriage concocted entirely to legitimize Kira. But in a heartrending twist, it transpired that, unbeknownst to the youngster, she actually sprang from the loins of another rich movie mogul type, Stephen Bing. Throw in the scandal involving Kerkorian&#8217;s divorce lawyers employing the services of now-imprisoned Hollywood private detective Anthony Pellicano, convicted of illegal wiretapping, to try to get the upper hand over Bonder Kerkorian&#8217;s legal team. Cue Kerkorian&#8217;s denial of any knowledge of such malfeasance. All this story needs is a car chase and an overturned fruit cart and it&#8217;s option-ready. (More on Time.com: Photos: Pregnant Belly Art) ﻿﻿The tidy sum will put a stop to a lawsuit Bonder Kerkorian had brought against her former husband, for more child support. Her father will continue to pay, according the Associated Press, until &#8220;Kira turns 19 or until she graduates from high school, no longer is a full-time student or no longer is living with her mother full-time. After that, the settlement says, the child support will be reduced to $50,000 a month.&#8221; The child support is intended to cover all Kira&#8217;s needs except, of course, medical expenses not covered by insurance, of which Kerkorian will pay half. Hopefully, that will<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=13625&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>If You&#8217;re Going to Marry for Real Estate, Get an Appraisal</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2010/10/08/wifes-house-price-overstated-so-he-wants-out/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 08 Oct 2010 11:45:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In the annals of reasons to end a marriage, this one is a corker. An Australian man tried to have his marriage annulled because his new bride&#8217;s house was worth less than she said it was. According to the Sydney Morning Herald, the couple had been married just five months before separating. The man, who was not named, claimed his wife had led him to believe that she owned a house worth AUD$200,000 (about USD$197,000). In fact, it was only worth $140,000 and she still owed $120,000 on it. So the man sought an annulment on grounds of fraud. (More on Time.com: Another Reason Not to Get Divorced: Bloggers Bare All) But Justice James Barry threw the case out, saying the man had consented to the marriage, and that fraud applies to the ceremony itself not to &#8221;the obtaining of the consent to marriage by various representations or inducements.&#8221; In other words, however shady the events may have been that led to your consenting to marry a person, once you&#8217;ve capably consented, you&#8217;re stuck. The judge could have also pointed out that the man didn&#8217;t seem to understand either the fundamentals of how marriage or property investment worked, but perhaps he didn&#8217;t want to pile on. Now the young couple have to get divorced, like regular folk, or try to live together until housing prices rise again and maybe fall in love despite their seemingly insurmountable differences, like the characters in almost every romantic comedy released this year. More on Time.com: 5 Little-Known Truths About American Sex Lives One-Night Stands Explained: Men Prefer Hot Bods to Pretty Faces<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=11812&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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		<title>Another Reason Not to Get Divorced: Bloggers Bare All</title>
		<link>http://healthland.time.com/2010/10/07/divorce-as-spectator-sport/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 07 Oct 2010 20:15:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Belinda Luscombe</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Like the Los Angeles Dodgers? Fascinated by the splits of the insanely wealthy? Love a bit o&#8217; legal jargon? Then do we have a blog for you! Third year University of Minnesota law student Josh Fisher is a Dodgers fan, an appreciator of the finer details of business transactions and a guy with enough time on his hands — and the attention span — to sit in a courtroom for hours on end listening to matrimonial lawyers. He chronicles it all on Dodger Divorce (&#8220;Bleeding Dodger Blue, Cash-Flow Red, and Dollar-Sign Green&#8221;). (More on Time.com: Divorce: It&#8217;s Not If You Fight, But How You Fight That Matters) In case you&#8217;ve somehow missed this almost yearlong legal bunfight, Frank McCourt — no relation to the avuncular Angela&#8217;s Ashes guy — is divorcing his wife, Jamie. The split is so bitter and complicated and public they both have PR representation. (Jamie is — or was — repped by the same guy that reps Sylvester Stallone.) The McCourts jointly own the Los Angeles Dodgers, and for last five years of their marriage were hauling in a salary of about $2.3 million a month, according to court documents. Jamie wants about a million a month while it all gets sorted, and claims Frank is worth about $835 million, and McCourt Enterprises, $2 billion. The legal issues are quite tricky, with a disputed agreement over ownership of the Dodgers at its center. It&#8217;s all very War of The Roses meets Any Given Sunday, but with baseball, so it&#8217;s attracted a lot of media coverage. But nobody has given it the loving attention that   Fisher has. &#8220;The California legislature expressed, through § 852(a), that the old system of not requiring an express declaration &#8220;encourage[d] a spouse, after the marriage ha[d] ended, to transform a passing comment into an &#8216;agreement&#8217; or even to commit perjury by manufacturing an oral or implied transmutation,&#8217;&#8221; he writes of the legal issues behind the contentious Marital Property Agreements. Got that? (More on Time.com: One-Night Stands Explained: Men Prefer Hot Bods to Pretty Faces)<img alt="" border="0" src="http://stats.wordpress.com/b.gif?host=healthland.time.com&#038;blog=8684427&#038;post=11779&#038;subd=timewellness&#038;ref=&#038;feed=1" width="1" height="1" />]]></description>
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